Sunday, December 31, 2017

A Wild and Radiant New Year!

As we face the dawn of a new year, I want to extend my love and well wishes to you all.

As we look back on this year and reflect on the things that worked and didn't work, let's try not to be so hard on ourselves and resolve to seek our hearts for a path forward that feels right for the coming year. Let's be true to our Wildness and never fear being misunderstood by others.

Let's have the courage to be ourselves always, because we cannot control how others will perceive the things we do and say in this life. People are people, and people will judge. They will perceive us through their own mental conditoning no matter what we do or say, but I encourage you to stay true. Stand firm in the truth of self-knowing. Know yourself and your intentions. Most of all, know your heart and live from your soul. The truth is always there in your heart. You are always the authority on who and what your intentions are. Never let the misunderstandings, misgivings, and misinterpretations of others dictate this for you, or dictate who you are.

Rest confidently in knowing yourself and allow yourself to be free of concern and free of the attachment to being liked or loved. The ones meant to be in your life will BE in your life. The ones who are not, will simply fade away in the natural order of things. Give love and receive love, but most of all, give appreciation for all the experiences...good or bad...because every experience helps us to grow and evolve in the big picture.

Surrender to the flow of things. Embrace the relationships that are healthy and release the ones that are no longer healthy, never were healthy, or never truly existed. The energy of it never lies. When a relationship of any kind is nourishing and healthy, then it feels good. If it does not feel good...if the energy feels negative, critical, doubting, cynical, judging, indifferent, neglectful, etc...then pay attention. Listen to your heart, and act accordingly.

You can love someone so much, but ultimately the energy you give must somehow return, or it will drain and deplete you. All healthy relationships are about maintaining a healthy energetic balance of give and take.

Being a wild-hearted free-thinking spirit is part of your radiance! It means being true to yourself and living in your natural state. It means living life from the inside, embracing those who accept and love you as you are, and letting go of those who are critical, negative, indifferent, or make you feel judged.

You are a divine natural force in this world. You deserve to love and be loved as you are without conditions, without having to conform, and without having to shrink and play small with your life!

May tomorrow be the first day of a radiantly WILD New Year!

Brightest Blessings..

Wild Love Always! 💖

Sunday, August 20, 2017

I Choose to Love

When I see a person, I do not see the color of their skin, lifestyle, or their religious background. I respect all walks of life and spiritual persuasions.

When I see a person, I see their heart and the essence of their character. I see the spirit that animates them whether they are loving, or not. I hold great respect for the many ways people choose to embrace the higher power that feeds  their soul. I will not judge people for who they are, or what they believe. Ever.

When we judge, we fear...and when we fear, it will only ever rob us of our joy...rob us of love for self and others...of friendships and connections that could have been lifelong.

Fear produces defensiveness, misunderstanding, mistrust, judgement, and hate. The world has had enough hate, and hate is darkness. The world needs more light...more understanding...less judgement...and more love. As author Caroline Myss once said, "Nothing grows in the shadows, and everything grows in the light."

Love is a light...a power from the energy that can transform to the highest good of all. Heart energy has the power to heal; to illuminate life; to build bridges instead of creating great divides. Where fear takes, love gives. It allows us to transform; to move from judgement to compassion...from fear to mutual trust and understanding...from hate to peace...from darkness to light.

I choose to love. Will you?

Sunday, July 16, 2017

The Intuition Moon Cycle - A closing reflection

As our Intuition Moon Cycle comes to a close, I feel guided to share my reflections for the last two moon cycles and how they tie into our upcoming "Self-love" Moon. 

For the new moon in Gemini, we explored the untapped depths of our minds in the Contemplative Moon Cycle, and for the new moon in Cancer, we explored the untapped intelligence of our hearts during this Intuition Moon Cycle. These two cycles prepare us for the upcoming Self-love Moon, because it requires self-love to cultivate, care for, nurture, and expand those depths within us.

Through contemplation, we can inquire deeply about things that materially affect the condition and quality of our lives. As we become clearer through contemplation, our Intuition kicks in to give ourselves guidance on those things we have contemplated.

Simply put, our contemplation assesses a situation deeply (mind intelligence) and our intuition guides the situation from our depths (heart intelligence) to open a path towards radical self-acceptance and self-fulfillment...a result of self-love.

So many of us struggle with this thing called "self-love," but let us endeavor to walk this divine path and co-create this healing container together when the moon is new again. Let us support and hold sacred space for one another in the spirit of unconditional love, kindness, compassion, and non-judgment. Together, we can heal. Together, we will RISE!

Monday, July 10, 2017

Forgiveness: A Step Towards Peace

Sometimes, in our humanness, we (or people around us) do or say things that we (or they) later regret. Perhaps we acted or said something out of fear instead of love. Whatever the situation, the error of judgement was realized and the heart is left aching with a sorrow so deep that only an act of the soul can ever heal it...the act of forgiving.

Forgiving oneself or someone else requires great love and courage. An article describes forgiveness as one of the "most liberating acts of self-love that one can do for themselves" with the result of "freeing oneself from hatred and living with a peaceful heart." I can think of nothing more beautiful, freeing, and healing than living a life with a peaceful heart. It is worth the seeking and giving of compassion and forgiveness, especially when relationships mean a lot to the people involved...when there is genuine care and concern...the special bond between them can survive and then thrive.

When people care about each other, it is worth the giving of empathy, compassion, mutual understanding, and forgiveness. It is worth owning up to whatever wrong was done and then making it right again. It is critical to become aware, to acknowledge, and to stop all hurtful and offending actions or deeds that divide instead of unite. It is worth walking through the transformational fire, mending fences, and walking in a state of grace with humility, respect, and deep love...for self and for others; to keep cherished relationships alive and healthy. It is worth walking through this fire to restore the balance of things; to restore good will and trust.

Whether we give or seek forgiveness, we can liberate the weight we carry inside and transcend the transgression; whatever it may be. From this, we can grow and heal in a meaningful way. We can extend good will, own up to things, and rebuild whatever trust was broken. With mutual compassion and empathy, we can see through the hurt and fear that caused the offending action or words. With mutual understanding, we can get through the tough times. We can overcome adversity. We can survive and thrive. With a mindful heart, we can remain sensitive to one another and set the intention to re-build healthy boundaries, to mend and heal whatever was broken. With forgiveness, a lightness of the soul can return and restore harmony to all. Endeavor to heal. Endeavor to love unconditionally. Endeavor to forgive, and let the heart be light again.

Friday, June 9, 2017

Conscious Uncoupling - A Contemplation

As I contemplate my marriage, I am realizing more every day that marriage is not meant to be a life sentence. As people, we change over time based on life experiences. We often find that through these experiences we change. For some couples, it is a harmonious pairing and they can change and grow together. For others, the pairing is not harmonious and the change is so much that at the core, they become so different from who they were when they first got married. The pairing becomes contentious, adversarial, and so deep in resentment. The relationship becomes toxic and draining. While many might see this as a form of failure, it is actually not a failure, but a signal to grow and evolve. At a deeper level, it's an invitation to heal the old scars and emotional wounds from the past.

Marriage is not meant to be a self-imposed prison with people at each other's throats most of the time...if not all of the time. The illusion that "everyone goes through this" is false. Sure, there are good and bad times in all relationships; but when something is deeply wrong, it creates the condition of a soul-sucking experience and it becomes a self-imposed life sentence by choice. I became more aware of this choice when I learned of a term called "Conscious Uncoupling"... a term that releases a person from the self-imposed notion that says we fail when we leave a toxic relationship. Instead, Conscious Uncoupling means honoring the memory of a relationship in a way that recognizes it as a teacher, and as a necessary part of our own inner growth. With Conscious Uncoupling, neither party is good or bad, but changed...and changed for the better, if we so choose.

"Nearly everyone comes into a new marriage idealizing their partner. Everything is perfect in their minds because they’ve misidentified what marriage is really about. As far as they’re concerned, they’ve found the love of their life, the person who understands them completely. Yes, there will be hiccups in the process, but by and large, there’s no more learning left to do. They’ll both be the same people 10 or 20 years from now as they are today. When we idealize our partners, things initially go very well as we subconsciously project our own positive qualities, as well as the qualities we wish we had, onto them. This positive projection, as it’s called, happens during the honeymoon phase of the relationship where both partners can do no wrong in each other’s eyes.

Sooner or later, the honeymoon ends and reality sets in, so does negative projection. This is usually when we stop projecting positive things onto our partners and begin to project our negative issue onto them instead. Unfortunately, this creates a boomerang effect as these negative issues always come right back to us, triggering our unconscious and long-buried negative internal objects, which are our deepest hurts, betrayals, and traumas. This back-and-forth process of projection and aggravation can escalate to the point where it impacts our psychic structure with even more trauma.

For most of us, these old unresolved issues can be traced back to our first intensely emotional relationship, the one we had with our parents. Because most of these old wounds are unconscious to us as adults, we’re subconsciously driven to resolve them, which is why many people end up with partners that are very similar in key ways to their mother or father. If we’re not in tune with this type of dynamic within our relationship, all we end up seeing is the repeated mistrust, abandonment, or other issue that’s followed us through all our previous relationships. We never see that it’s the signal to heal the emotional wound that’s connected to it. Instead, we choose to blame the other person.

Because we believed so strongly in the 'until death do us part' concept, we see the demise of our marriage as a failure, bringing with it shame, guilt, or regret. Since most of us don’t want to face what we see as a personal failure, we retreat into resentment and anger, and resort to attacking each other instead. We’ve put on our armor and we’re ready to do battle. What we don’t realize is that while a full body shield may offer a level of self-protection, it’s also a form of self-imprisonment that locks us inside a life that repeats the same mistakes over and over again. This includes attracting the same kind of partners to push the same emotional buttons for us until we recognize the deeper purpose of such a relationship."

--Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami


Sunday, April 2, 2017

The Mystic Power Moon: Intentions for the New Moon in Aries

Last night I led circle, and in circle we always draw from oracle cards as tools to help us set the most powerful intentions for the coming Lunar cycle. Of the Goddess cards, I drew Kuan Yin. She is the Chinese Goddess of Compassion. The message said, "Release judgments about yourself and others, and focus on the love and light within everyone"...sometimes this is so hard to do.

The second card I drew came from the Earth Magic oracle cards. I drew the card "Waterfall - Effortless"...this card reads...

"You have come to the edge of your comfort zone and find yourself fighting to resist moving past that perceived precipice of who you are, how you can be, or what you can do. Spirit is asking you to step beyond the edge and allow yourself to do so with ease rather than struggle. Yes, at times physical exertion is necessary, but when performed with fluidity and grace, even when the task seems daunting, you'll find that the movement moves you effortlessly..."

How often do we resist and struggle against change...even when that change is good...even when that change is so needed? The path ahead can be so very difficult, because we often end up doubting ourselves and doubting the good things that are trying to make their way into our lives. We often block ourselves from receiving the good that is trying to materialize. For me, the meaning of these cards are urging me to go with the flow and to trust Spirit while holding compassion for self and suspend judgment and see the love and light within everyone, and to love unconditionally no matter what the circumstances appear to be. I am ready for this. So many beautiful things are depending on this in my life.

For this new moon cycle...this Mystic Power Moon...I will endeavor to place my faith in Spirit. I will powerfully endeavor to flow like the Waterfall with grace and not to struggle and resist against the beautiful things that are growing and taking place in my life. I will aspire to love unconditionally starting with myself, and to become my own truest love first so that I can be that truest love for others as well.

Monday, March 20, 2017

The Big Wane: From Devotion into Power

As the Devotion Moon wanes, it is my sincerest hope that you have found and connected to the depths of your heart to find what you are most devoted to, and what you deeply stand for.
Devotion is an energy that carries with it a very potent energetic charge that creates possibilities when things seem hopeless. It is a divine charge from deep within that helps us power through the toughest of times, and it gives us the stamina to see things through and clear whatever stands in the way no matter what.

Without devotion, we give up on things too easily. We run away or mentally check out when the going gets tough. Perseverance becomes impossible, because devotion is the symbolic "glue" that makes us stick to what's important. There is no meaningful progress without a deep sense of devotion holding us close and keeping our feet to the fire.

If you were in circle with me when this Devotion Moon began, I invite you now to revisit and reconnect to the intention you set for yourselves in this cycle. Feel into it. Breathe into it. Let it come to life in your heart and in your soul. Let it lovingly enfold you and bring you to a whole new level of meaning and purpose in your life.

If you were not in circle with me when this cycle began, I invite you now to seek your heart for the thing you feel most devoted to. I invite you to contemplate what you stand for, and root yourselves firmly into it. I encourage you to connect deeply, because these are the things that bring purpose and meaning to a life well lived.

As we connect and root ourselves firmly in our devotion, we slowly and gradually transition towards the fiery energy of Aries and the new Power Moon. This moon will ask us to contemplate the ways in which we block the fullness of our own power; so as we become firmly connected and rooted within our devotion, we will also be "tilling the soil" in preparation of calling forth the creative fire of the new Power Moon to fuel our fiery and soulful rebirth.

In anticipation of the coming new moon, here are a few encouraging words regarding the fire of rebirth from beloved sister and founder of the Wild Woman Project, Chris Maddox:

"In my Wild Woman Initiation, I have often been asked to stand in the fire of rebirth. Every single time, I am scared. I have learned to go anyway.

This fire calls to me every so often, in waves, in cycles, as needed. Mind you, dear reader, there are always gentler times in between, full of softening, bliss, deep comfort & nourishment.

But the fire knows just when to call again."

Join me Wild Hearts, as we ready ourselves for this Great Unfolding.
With love and gratitude..


Wednesday, March 1, 2017

The Path to Devotion - For the New Moon in Pisces 2017

The new moon in Pisces, which happened Sunday, brought about the theme of Devotion...which asks of us these questions. What do you stand for? What or who are you devoted to? What or who would you die for?

For me, it is all about freedom of body, mind, and spirit, as well as knowing that I must have these things in order to accomplish my purpose and mission in have patience and compassion for myself as I learn to live and grow in service of the divine feminine; to help people connect to that deep place within themselves, to their hearts, and to the divine within.

For this cycle, I am devoted to deepening my connection with spirit, so that it may guide my heart towards accomplishing a divine mission and pathway to love. It will mean setting healthy boundaries and removing all unhealthy attachments, demands on my time, and neutralizing barriers to create and maintain the space I need to learn, heal, love, and grow. It also means having patience and compassion for self, as the healing journey is never linear, but often a messy circular cycle with both good and challenging times involved. I know that as I overcome the challenges, I will continue on a transformative journey. That in itself is such a gift.

So now I ask you...

What are you devoted to this cycle? What does devotion look like for you? The answer to these questions will come from a very deep place. If you are still and quiet long enough, you will feel your heart guiding you. Listen closely...listen it. Find your devotion, and you will find the source that illuminates you deeply...that which nourishes your spirit also feeds your inner light.

Sunday, February 19, 2017

The Choice to Be Powerful

Every day we face a choice...the choice between being powerful or powerless. If we choose to be powerless, we give our power away and write it off as "fate" or "bad luck"...or even just a "bad day." While it's normal to have bad days, it's quite another matter to dwell in a bad head-space for weeks and months on end.

You see, we create our realities through our thoughts and through the way we perceive situations around us. We affect our quality of life and our precious nervous system pays dearly for it, because this type of stress drains us...drains our energy...and drains us of our precious life force.

When we choose to be powerful, it doesn't mean that every day is stress free. It doesn't mean that we go around wearing rose-colored glasses all the time, and ignore the truth when it's painfully obvious and clear. What it does mean is that we consciously choose to acknowledge that there is always something we can do to change make things better.

Choosing to be powerful means that we remain awake to our inner-guidance which is always there and ready to guide us if we are quiet enough to listen...if we remain conscious enough to give ourselves the space to hear what Spirit needs to say.

Choosing to be powerful means recognizing the responsibility we have to ourselves for creating our own happiness, and not resolving ourselves to "fate" matter how bad things seem...we DO have a choice.

Choose to be powerful. Your best days are yet ahead.

Friday, January 27, 2017

How the Journey of Awakening Can Be Like an Earthquake

Change is a journey whether good or bad. It is also very chaotic in nature, and often very awkward and always unsettling. The energy of awkwardness can be felt on a very deep level…not just within ourselves, but also by the people who surround us. When we grow, it is often the case that certain things are still making their way into our awareness…things that still need to be realized…and so the awkwardness of it is merely a sign that this “knowingness” is still making its way into consciousness. It is a very uncomfortable place to be, because the ego demands perfection from us—and when we fall short—we cause ourselves so much suffering.

This recently happened to me when I came face to face with my own awkwardness regarding feminism, and what it truly means. For all my life, I never gave much thought to the word “feminism.” Whenever it did come to mind, it was always from an external source or person saying something derogatory and negative about it…that feminists are all “man-haters’ and quick to judge all other women who weren’t “feminist enough.” Over the years, I learned to tune out these negative voices, and in doing so, I also tuned out the word and the divine feminine deeply connected to it. I tuned out the feminist in me, and in the process, I shut off my inner-voice, and suffered greatly for it without even knowing why. There’s an old saying that says “ignorance is bliss.” However, when Spirit intends for us to realize something about ourselves, it can often bring it to our awareness in the most stark and startling ways. It can cause an earth quake of grand proportions to shake us to the core from deep within.

This recently happened for me when a discussion on social media awoke me to the truth of who I am. It made me realize that I am indeed a feminist in heart, and in character, and that there is so much more to sisterhood and leading circles. Suddenly, I felt this overwhelming sense of falling short. Although the spirit of the discussion was very kind and generous, I felt such a deep sense of shame over my ignorance of not knowing about feminism, and of not knowing what it truly means. This overwhelming feeling caused me to pull back from leading circle. Before canceling, I wrote the following message to my circle:

“As the moon wanes into her darkened grace, I have recently realized that I too need to wane and step back from leading circle for a while. As an awakening woman, I am feeling awkward, vulnerable, and not feeling like I am ready to lead a group of beautiful women like yourselves until I can get right within myself and within my own femininity. For this reason, I am canceling all circles and waning with the moon into darkness. I am not leaving permanently, but I am taking this time to resolve and come to terms with what is awakening inside of me, because only then can I be a strong circle leader for become someone you can truly get behind. Until that time, please be well and be blessed.”

My feelings of inadequacy in that moment were so strong, and my shame was so deep, because here I was leading circles without any clue about feminism and the significance of it…not just for myself, but for my sisters-in-circle as well. My ego and inner-critic came out to me with a vengeance. I beat myself up inside pretty bad, and I cried my eyes out for most of the night. I had planned to retreat from EVERYTHING, and had announced this intention to my circle-leader sisters and tribe that I would not be leading circle for a while and why. My shame and despair ran so deep. The pain of my despair was too unbearable and so very painful.

I felt completely lost, because for the past year, leading circles had become so important to me. I had overcome severe social anxiety issues and old bonding wounds related to a deep mistrust of other women. I had overcome these deep issues within myself to rise and to lead, but now here I was “failing” at what had become so important to me. The healing importance of circling is so profound. I found my tribe when my heart was breaking. Their love, presence of mind, and spiritual depth helped me to find my own way home to myself during one of the darkest times in my life. I knew there would be many others in my community who were feeling as I did, and I knew that leading a circle would indeed provide a needed service in my community…to provide a safe container where other women could explore their own inner-waters, find their way home to themselves, reconnect to that inner-light, and reconnect to their inner-voice in a world that would see them conforming in silence. Leading circle had become my soul mission and purpose in life, but I felt like I was “failing” it through my own ignorance of what feminism is.

My freefall into darkness was sudden and so painful, but it’s times like these when Spirit comes through the strongest for us, and it did so for me when I received an outpouring of love and support from my tribe the following morning. Their love and encouragement saved me, and my shame dissolved into a heartfelt sense of gratitude and relief. Through the love of my tribe, Spirit came to me and let me know that everything is ok…that it is ok to be imperfect…that it is ok to show up as I am, and to lead circle from the depths of my heart. I am learning and I am growing, but this state of “unknowingness” does not mean that I am unworthy. A big part of learning and growing is having compassion for oneself during the awkward times. One of the bigger lessons of this experience is learning to have a presence of mind that can silence the inner-critic when it starts screaming. Yes, this was a very painful learning experience for me, but I am still so very grateful. I have emerged a better person, and more self-aware of who I am…a proud FEMINIST on a MISSION!

Monday, January 23, 2017

When the Light Inside Turns Off By Default...

Then Self-Awareness and Personal Initiative must turn it back ON...

I had to share this passage from a book I just started reading. It hits heart and home.

“I have been preoccupied with the question of why women have this limited ability to access their power and voice that nothing they do seems to ameliorate or resolve. As I look around the world of women, it seems as if our lights are off. We are turned off, like a light switch. The bulb is in there, but it sure isn’t lit up. And it is no wonder. We have all been taught to turn off, to turn away…
Turn away from the homeless person begging for change. Turn away from the impact of climate change that we each deepen with our daily actions and inactions. Turn off from our own emotions. 
No one had to teach us to turn off. Our culture models it with actions so much louder than words. So many of us were taught to back away from our strong emotions—to find them embarrassing, ridiculous even. So many of us were taught to keep a lid on anything and everything outrageous. To just turn it off. We turn off our life force, turn off our feelings, turn off our sensuality, and as a consequence, we turn off our power” (Thomashauer, 2016, pg. xvii)

–Regena Thomashauer, “Pussy: A Reclamation”