Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Dissolving Ego for Happiness


As I learn more about the ego and the ways it can destroy happiness, I realize more and more that it is better to let go of fear and anxiety than to risk sabotaging what could grow into beautiful life treasures. When we act out of fear, we only plant seeds of sorrow, despair, and insecurity. We perpetuate our own suffering. We miss out on the connection to inner-guidance and to other people, because we are too busy worrying inside of our own heads; creating turmoil from past hurtful experiences. Ego can be especially tough on us when hurtful experiences from the past were deep and devastating like a past betrayal lingering unresolved for many years; the loss of love, or a passion that died somewhere along the way. Whatever happened in the past to create the traumatic experience, the subconscious mind doesn't know any better. It projects a painful past experience to the present day as a way of protecting us from something ever happening again; even if it is not really happening. Ego will sabotage our chances for happiness every time we let it run away with our peace of mind.

When ego is in control we essentially end up living in the past or anxious about the future. We do not live in the present moment where the truth resides. The mind replays traumatic experiences as a way of warning us that a potential situation may be unfolding and repeating itself, when perhaps it is not. The worry stemming from these thoughts causes fear and anxiety to resurface; bringing with it...the fear of loss...the fear of loneliness...the fear of rejection and abandonment. We end up acting out of fear, and then a self-fulfilling prophecy develops because we materialize what we pour our energy into; regardless of whether it's the desired effect. When we find something precious that brings so much joy to our lives, the last thing we want to do is to let fear and anxiety destroy it's chances of survival. Ego will take over and create turmoil where none previously existed.

For the sake of happiness and peace of mind, I am making a commitment to live in the present moment; to see each experience as a brand new one capable of its own outcome. I am making a commitment to dissolve the Ego and to live in the present moment with a heart full of love, gratitude, grace, kindness, compassion, tolerance, and forgiveness. I will learn to trust, to let go, and to let be. I will no longer allow Ego to rob me of happiness and human connection. With a heartfelt gratitude, I hope the same for you. As the moon begins its wane, let peace find you as you release fear and anxiety from your mind to make room for inner-peace and happiness within your heart.

"This whole practice of dissolving ego is like one big detox. You know how crappy you feel after a night out spent wallowing in happy indulgence? The headaches, the cravings, the low mood? Yeah, that’s your liver detoxing and ridding itself of the alcohol/sugar/bad fats/what-have-you. The anger and self-righteousness you begin to feel after starting this process is the same thing. And just like a hangover, all you can do is wait it out and make the best choices you can stomach."

"Free Yourself from Ego in Three Easy Steps" by Amy Jirsa, MindBodyGreen.com



Thursday, July 14, 2016

In the Light of the Waxing Moon: Growing to fullness and a time of release

The moon teaches us about the creative process every month without fail as she waxes and wanes within the lunar cycle. As she wanes, she grows dark. We can't see her when she becomes a new moon. She enters into a dark period; a time of rebirth and renewal. As the moon begins waxing into fullness, she grows brighter and more luminous until she has once again achieved fullness.

At the point of fullness, she begins waning into a new moon again. In the same way, when we grow full, there comes a time when we must acknowledge and release things that no longer makes sense to hold on to. Maybe it is an old way of thinking, being, or living that is not working anymore. Whatever it is, it is holding us back or bringing us down.

Maybe it's an unhealthy way of thinking, a feeling of insecurity, a relationship that brings nothing but sorrow, or a soul-crushing job that is siphoning the passion out of life. Maybe it's a bad habit that needs breaking. Whatever it is, we know on some deep level that there will come a time when letting go may be the right thing to do; or in fact, the only thing to do. The question is, can we let go when hanging on stops making sense?

As the full moon approaches, I find myself thinking about this more every day. I think about things that should be released in order to make room for new healthier ways of thinking and being to emerge; to become lighter for the journey ahead...to find wholeness and peace of mind.

The answer is not always obvious; but if something frazzles the mind and tears at the heart often enough, then this might be a good place to start observing and contemplating the reasons why.



"Now is the time to let anything in your life fall away that is no longer useful or needed for the emerging expression of who you are. Allow yourself to gradually shed what has become burdensome and no longer congruent with your soul’s purpose. With release comes a sense of being much lighter, just like the trees that openly bear their nakedness once their leaves have departed and give room for whatever new Life is ready to birth following a period of quiet and gestation. So let go of whatever has outlived its purposefulness and trust that something else will take its place." 

Saturday, July 9, 2016

Suppression of a Dream

There is no running from a destined path. Once the eyes have been opened, the seen cannot be unseen. The newly realized cannot be unrealized. Yet there are those whose insecurities would see ignorance maintained. They would see a dream die...because somehow they feel and fear it would exclude them. These people make themselves roadblocks to answering the call of a dream, because they have a deep fear of being "left behind"...or of somehow being forgotten when it couldn't be further from the truth.

Overcoming these roadblocks is tough when not supported, or when it's discouraged...when friends or family disapprove, and the tendency is to remain in compliance. One can feel stifled, held down, held back, and kept from pursuing a life's dream. Stop it! Take the chance! Stop letting other people's hang-ups kill what could be a beautiful gift to the world.

One step at a time, figure it out! Destiny will unfold it's path. When it does, it always starts by putting one foot in front of the other, and taking one step at a time. A dream unfolds a little every day with applied concentrated focus. Stay true. Don't let anyone take it away. Pursuit it! Don't let the drone of life drain away the time until it's gone forever, and opportunities slip away. 

Take action every day with even the smallest steps. Little by little, walk the destined path...until the dream is finally real.