Wednesday, November 9, 2016

Desire, Power, and Learned Helplessness

As we continue to dive deeper into this month's DESIRE Moon theme at the Wild Woman Project, we connect further into the idea that desire is the seed of all creation. When one is making major changes in life, the desire to do so must be so strong that it can withstand the greatest resistance from any source who prefers that things stay the same. To do otherwise is to give power away which results in learned helplessness.

"You are helpless when you believe you can do nothing, and that belief keeps you from trying. You escape when you have learned to do something to avoid pain, and you refuse to try anything else. The very thing you have learned to do is the thing that keeps you from learning that something else is possible, that things have changed, that things could change for you" (pg. 35) --Blaine Lee, The Power Principle: Influence with Honor

When a person gets caught up in learned helplessness, all possibilities in life cease to exist. There is only fear, stagnation, and ultimately the withering of the soul; along with all of its desires and aspirations. Sometimes, the fear that's blocking the way forward belongs to someone else through discouraging advice and opinions. Whatever form fear takes, it is debilitating. Fear is a blinding barrier to all who allow it to be so. It makes the way forward unclear and hopeless, and it may feel like one is living a life prescribed by someone else's desires rather than living a life according to ones own true desires and inner-yearnings.

Living life according to the desires of other people is how a person ends up out of alignment with themselves; when head and heart are in conflict because the heart says to do one thing, and the head is doing what someone else is prescribing as the "right and only way." It makes learned helplessness a deep and painful reality...so very difficult to get out of.

The desire to overcome this state of helplessness must be stronger than fear itself, if there is to be any real and lasting change. This burning desire is the "seed" that inspires the actions necessary to find a way out of learned helplessness. In the face of overwhelming odds and challenges, this deep desire for change is necessary to align head and heart, and to transform life from one day to the next.

As we approach the mid-point of this Desire Moon, let's think about the ways we block our own desires. Let's get really clear on what it is that keeps us from achieving our heart's desire, so we can set the intentions to release them at Full Moon time; even if it means releasing the need to live life according to the fears and limitations of others.

Be true to yourself. Be true to your heart, and be true to your own heart's desire.

"To thine own self be true" --William Shakespeare







Friday, October 14, 2016

Embracing Dark Times and Transforming to Light

Today, I am so grateful for the darker lower energies of the human psyche for they also have much to teach us about ourselves. During dark times, these lower energies come out in full force and they threaten to sabotage all the good in our lives. We must then make a choice. We can either go down with these darker energies and get stuck, or we can surrender to a higher vibration and look for the lessons inherent in the transformation of these dark energies; ultimately, turning them into light. With this light, we not only transform ourselves, but also our surroundings. Like a ripple effect, the new light created extends outward from ourselves to those around us. In essence, we become beacons of healing light for others; one by one, and person by person, we heal directly and indirectly. Energy flows where intention goes.

As we approach the Full Moon, let's dive deeper into our Mystic Love Moon theme for the New Moon in Libra. Let's look through the lens of unconditional love, and see how we might transform dark energies in our lives right now.

What might we want or need to release to allow the flow of unconditional love to transform the dark energies that threaten to sabotage happiness and the path forward?

As a gift to yourself, make time for spaciousness and contemplation. Open the jewel that is your heart, and seek answers there. This is your way through the storm. This is the way into the light of your best transformed self. Release what is no longer serving you, so that there is room for planted intentions to grow.

Think of a garden full of weeds. If we do not go into the garden and pull out the weeds, the weeds will rob nutrition from the flowers and the blossoms that we originally intended to grow. It's the same with the intentions we set. At some point, we must energetically "pull weeds" and release what no longer serves us to make room for our original intentions to grow strong, and to make room for the planting of new intentions for a blossoming life.




Thursday, October 6, 2016

A Time For Love

"Emotional energy has got to go somewhere, and self-loathing is a powerful emotion. Turned inward, it becomes our personal hells: addiction, obsession, compulsion, depression, violent relationships, illness. Projected outward, it becomes our collective hells: violence, war, crime, oppression. But it's all the same thing: Hell has many mansions too" (p. 6).

Marianne Williamson, "Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles"



Sunday, September 18, 2016

Temperance: Intentions for the Harvest Full Moon

The Harvest Full Moon was upon us, and brought with it such good insights. With a lunar eclipse, and planetary energies shifting, the significance of this moon called for a special trip to a beautiful waterfall on the Peninsula. It was soothing to be there. It was divine to experience the sounds of nature; to breathe in the crisp fresh air, and to be fully present in the moment. It was a day of friendship, of receiving, of insight, and of powerful healing. The overall theme for the day was Temperance, or as Merriam Webster Dictionary defines it, "Moderation in action, thought, or feeling."

This is an important word, because in order to have temperance, one must be willing to "let go" a little; let go of fears, let go of worries, and let go of anxieties. It is right in line with the spirit of the full moon; a time of release. Every major undertaking takes a degree of temperance to go at a pace that is slow enough to spot and resolve issues before they become issues. It was the perfect theme for the day.

Temperance fits so perfectly, because it is always our intention during full moon time to release and let go of what is no longer serving us in the greater picture; for example, an unhealthy way of thinking or perceiving a situation. Perhaps it is an unhealthy way of living or eating that needs changing. Full moon time is all about letting go of what keeps us from our true happiness, and what blocks us from our joy; whether self-imposed or not.

To find temperance, one must first find the source of fear that is in control, because fear causes many to act in ways that are more often than not self-sabotaging. Fear can be a barrier to mutual understanding. It can stop a person from trying anything new; or worse, giving up entirely before knowing the full extent of possibilities in any given situation. With temperance, a person slows down and has the time and space to observe and respond appropriately to changing climates in any given environment. Therefore, as the Moon begins her wane, I ask you this. What is in your life now that requires temperance, and what will you have to let go to obtain it?







Wednesday, September 14, 2016

Grief and Suffering - Walking Through a Purifying Fire

I read this quote today and felt such a heaviness in my heart. Change is constant, and life is constant change. Sometimes it requires letting go, having to suffer a little, or sometimes having to suffer a lot inside. Sometimes, it means outgrowing people, places, and things that no longer fit and no longer serve. Energetically and emotionally, it's a way of walking through a purifying fire. A spiritual test of sorts that one only fails if the heart and soul are ignored.

With divine love and courage, stand in the truth of the heart. Whatever is meant to be will be; what is not meant to be will not. Give it all up to Divine Will, and accept whatever outcome evolves. Trust in the power of love, kindness, compassion, and forgiveness to bring about the best outcome. No matter the suffering, all will be well in the end...somehow. Trust this. Know that it will be OK.

"No matter what we are forced to endure, we must find a way to love ourselves through it. We must find a way to save our own humanity from the wreckage of it. No matter the weight of the burden placed upon us mentally, emotionally, physically, economically and environmentally, we must find a way to connect to what keeps us afloat spiritually. Suffering isn’t handed out equally among us. The great injustice of life is that we must live it from where we are at. We don’t get a gold medal for enduring our lot. All we get is a chance at life."



Image source: TheGriefToolBox.com



Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Wings for a Wild Heart on the Mountain

This year, I attended Wild Woman Fest 16 in the Beautiful Mountains of New Lebanon, NY. I did not know what to expect. Being a first time attendee, I was a little anxious. I had never been around so many women. The Spirit in the air was of celebration and reunion. It was heart-warming to see the many re-connections of friendships formed over the year from past events. It was also a little intimidating, because I went by myself. Even still, every soul I encountered was so kind…even if maybe a little awkward sometimes. Eventually, things warmed up and I was able to get into the purpose of my being there…to find my symbolic “wings” …the freedom to be, autonomy, independence, and inter-dependence. I was able to slow down and enjoy the moment. I was able to think on my life deeply.

My need for self-reflection led me to miss out on many of the events that I had planned to attend, but my purpose for being there called for me to spend a lot of time alone to think, pray, meditate and deeply connect to my inner-knowing. It was then that the truth came to me. Freedom is a way of thinking and perceiving. It is a state of mind. If I desire to find my “wings,” I would have to understand that it all begins in the mind. This realization opened my awareness tremendously. I know what I have to do to find my wings, and the truth of the matter is that I ALREADY have them! They only need to be exercised, and I haven’t been. Freedom is like developing muscles; it only grows when exercised. As one dear friend once told me, there are many things in life that you have to use or you will lose. Freedom is definitely in that category of things.

Freedom will atrophy much like a muscle if never exercised. Freedom of thought can atrophy when subject to the “good opinion of others” as Dr Wayne Dyer once said. I went to the Mountain to find my wings, and in so doing found the seed of truth that was in my heart all along. I only needed to slow down long enough to connect to inner-guidance, and to access the answers that were already in there. It is both exciting and terrifying, because the path forward may not be well-received by every person in my life. However, I cannot let that stop me. I can no longer ignore the call in my heart. I can no longer ignore the truth of what my soul needs to thrive. Like the wind—freedom calls to my sense of independence and autonomy…beckoning me to spread my wings. The urge to fly reemerges, but not without the need to reclaim the power given away for many years. Wings cannot do what they were born to do, if they are never used…never exercised.

Wings require exercise and to do that requires freedom; freedom of mind, freedom of body, and freedom of spirit. Even within committed relationships, there must be a sense of independence, autonomy, and a deep sense of trust and mutual respect for the individual within the partnership. Without independence, there can be no Interdependence; and without interdependence, all you have is co-dependence. Freedom requires independence, and as such, so do our symbolic wings.

If freedom is a state of mind, then one must understand what it means in order to look through the “lens” of freedom, and use critical thought to discern what a person with “wings” would do in any given situation. This will surely upset the balance in life in many ways, but the inertia from ignoring the soul’s call would be far more unbearable, if ignored.

I went to the Mountain to find my wings, and came back with more than I could ever have bargained for. I am truly grateful...and so the journey continues.










Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Dissolving Ego for Happiness


As I learn more about the ego and the ways it can destroy happiness, I realize more and more that it is better to let go of fear and anxiety than to risk sabotaging what could grow into beautiful life treasures. When we act out of fear, we only plant seeds of sorrow, despair, and insecurity. We perpetuate our own suffering. We miss out on the connection to inner-guidance and to other people, because we are too busy worrying inside of our own heads; creating turmoil from past hurtful experiences. Ego can be especially tough on us when hurtful experiences from the past were deep and devastating like a past betrayal lingering unresolved for many years; the loss of love, or a passion that died somewhere along the way. Whatever happened in the past to create the traumatic experience, the subconscious mind doesn't know any better. It projects a painful past experience to the present day as a way of protecting us from something ever happening again; even if it is not really happening. Ego will sabotage our chances for happiness every time we let it run away with our peace of mind.

When ego is in control we essentially end up living in the past or anxious about the future. We do not live in the present moment where the truth resides. The mind replays traumatic experiences as a way of warning us that a potential situation may be unfolding and repeating itself, when perhaps it is not. The worry stemming from these thoughts causes fear and anxiety to resurface; bringing with it...the fear of loss...the fear of loneliness...the fear of rejection and abandonment. We end up acting out of fear, and then a self-fulfilling prophecy develops because we materialize what we pour our energy into; regardless of whether it's the desired effect. When we find something precious that brings so much joy to our lives, the last thing we want to do is to let fear and anxiety destroy it's chances of survival. Ego will take over and create turmoil where none previously existed.

For the sake of happiness and peace of mind, I am making a commitment to live in the present moment; to see each experience as a brand new one capable of its own outcome. I am making a commitment to dissolve the Ego and to live in the present moment with a heart full of love, gratitude, grace, kindness, compassion, tolerance, and forgiveness. I will learn to trust, to let go, and to let be. I will no longer allow Ego to rob me of happiness and human connection. With a heartfelt gratitude, I hope the same for you. As the moon begins its wane, let peace find you as you release fear and anxiety from your mind to make room for inner-peace and happiness within your heart.

"This whole practice of dissolving ego is like one big detox. You know how crappy you feel after a night out spent wallowing in happy indulgence? The headaches, the cravings, the low mood? Yeah, that’s your liver detoxing and ridding itself of the alcohol/sugar/bad fats/what-have-you. The anger and self-righteousness you begin to feel after starting this process is the same thing. And just like a hangover, all you can do is wait it out and make the best choices you can stomach."

"Free Yourself from Ego in Three Easy Steps" by Amy Jirsa, MindBodyGreen.com



Thursday, July 14, 2016

In the Light of the Waxing Moon: Growing to fullness and a time of release

The moon teaches us about the creative process every month without fail as she waxes and wanes within the lunar cycle. As she wanes, she grows dark. We can't see her when she becomes a new moon. She enters into a dark period; a time of rebirth and renewal. As the moon begins waxing into fullness, she grows brighter and more luminous until she has once again achieved fullness.

At the point of fullness, she begins waning into a new moon again. In the same way, when we grow full, there comes a time when we must acknowledge and release things that no longer makes sense to hold on to. Maybe it is an old way of thinking, being, or living that is not working anymore. Whatever it is, it is holding us back or bringing us down.

Maybe it's an unhealthy way of thinking, a feeling of insecurity, a relationship that brings nothing but sorrow, or a soul-crushing job that is siphoning the passion out of life. Maybe it's a bad habit that needs breaking. Whatever it is, we know on some deep level that there will come a time when letting go may be the right thing to do; or in fact, the only thing to do. The question is, can we let go when hanging on stops making sense?

As the full moon approaches, I find myself thinking about this more every day. I think about things that should be released in order to make room for new healthier ways of thinking and being to emerge; to become lighter for the journey ahead...to find wholeness and peace of mind.

The answer is not always obvious; but if something frazzles the mind and tears at the heart often enough, then this might be a good place to start observing and contemplating the reasons why.



"Now is the time to let anything in your life fall away that is no longer useful or needed for the emerging expression of who you are. Allow yourself to gradually shed what has become burdensome and no longer congruent with your soul’s purpose. With release comes a sense of being much lighter, just like the trees that openly bear their nakedness once their leaves have departed and give room for whatever new Life is ready to birth following a period of quiet and gestation. So let go of whatever has outlived its purposefulness and trust that something else will take its place." 

Saturday, July 9, 2016

Suppression of a Dream

There is no running from a destined path. Once the eyes have been opened, the seen cannot be unseen. The newly realized cannot be unrealized. Yet there are those whose insecurities would see ignorance maintained. They would see a dream die...because somehow they feel and fear it would exclude them. These people make themselves roadblocks to answering the call of a dream, because they have a deep fear of being "left behind"...or of somehow being forgotten when it couldn't be further from the truth.

Overcoming these roadblocks is tough when not supported, or when it's discouraged...when friends or family disapprove, and the tendency is to remain in compliance. One can feel stifled, held down, held back, and kept from pursuing a life's dream. Stop it! Take the chance! Stop letting other people's hang-ups kill what could be a beautiful gift to the world.

One step at a time, figure it out! Destiny will unfold it's path. When it does, it always starts by putting one foot in front of the other, and taking one step at a time. A dream unfolds a little every day with applied concentrated focus. Stay true. Don't let anyone take it away. Pursuit it! Don't let the drone of life drain away the time until it's gone forever, and opportunities slip away. 

Take action every day with even the smallest steps. Little by little, walk the destined path...until the dream is finally real.

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Waning Into a Dark Night

This month's New Moon theme from the Wild Woman Project is about calling on the Great Mother.

I think of the Great Mother as a loving, nurturing, and glowing energy...a cool and soothing essence. I love the idea of the Moon as an embodiment of this Great Mother archetype; because she is constant in her lessons of the creative process. When she grows into fullness and then wanes into complete darkness, I understand how darkness is sometimes necessary for change and personal growth. In darkness, we plant our seeds of intention, contemplate new ideas, delve into self-reflection, and engage inner guidance for direction, strength, and personal renewal. Yet it's in the darkness where we can experience the most pain and discomfort as we face our deepest fears and insecurities with grace and dignity.

Living through a dark night is never easy. This is a period of a person's life when they find themselves tested at the soul level; when the mind and heart are at complete odds with each other. A dark night is unrelenting. It can challenge old beliefs and perceptions, and shake our existence to the very core. What was once an obvious choice is no longer so obvious. Feelings, circumstances, and situations can change in unexpected ways. Facing a dark night means facing uncertainty, and facing ourselves in the quest to reconcile the heart with the mind; to find harmony and inner-peace again.

 A dark night will test us, and then take us to our darkest depths until we find a way to free ourselves; to ignite our inner-fire, and to discover what sets our soul ablaze with fulfillment, meaning, purpose, and happiness. Living in darkness is a temporary state, as the moon teaches when she wanes to darkness and then grows to fullness again. As such, darkness is a natural part of the human experience. We should not be afraid. Even when we find ourselves living in darkness, things eventually come to the light. Eventually, a path opens up to a better way forward…to a place of inner peace and knowing that all will be well in the end somehow.





Monday, June 13, 2016

Friendship...

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born." 

-Anais Nin-

Saturday, June 11, 2016

The Path Forward with Perseverance and Persistence

For every person, there are so many directions one can take in life; but which direction is the right one? Unless someone is focused and connected to inner guidance at all times, the right way forward may not always be so clear.

It's too easy to go down a road paved with the intentions, limitations, fears, and expectations of others. It becomes so important to remain aware of our own strength, desires, and aspirations in the face of those who are negative and unsupportive; to persevere through the toughest sense of resistance that lingers within us. It is unwise to continue down the path of least resistence when that path goes in a direction that is different from where we truly want to be in life.

The reward for vigilance is a self-directed path towards our truest selves; to our life's passion, to our joy, and to our deepest bliss.

We NEED to connect to our bliss, to source energy, to the Divine, and to Divine Love...a self-less love without conditions. A soulful heart MUST do what's necessary to bring about changes to conditions that would otherwise hold us back, keep us down, keep us dependent, or make us unhappy in the long run.

When the soul stirs, there is no waiting. There is only here and now. When we live in the present moment, we have the power to make every minute count towards reuniting us with our passion, to our true desired path, and to our unconditional happiness.

Let's resolve to stay focused, listen closely to inner-guidance. Let's have no fear in what the future may hold, and BELIEVE in possibilities.

What is meant to be will be.

Thursday, June 2, 2016

Standing firm in Faith

Today, let's resolve to walk in faith that all will be well in the end somehow; no matter the circumstances. Let all fears be quieted. Let all aching hearts and worried minds be still. Even if surrounded by uncertainty, trust and let go. Embrace and let be what will be; for we cannot see everything that is happening. Things happen for a reason. Therefore, trust that when something is meant to be, it will be no matter what. In that knowing, find peace of mind and heart. Let love, kindness, compassion, and forgiveness rule the day.


Image Credits: Valerie McKeehan


Wednesday, June 1, 2016

A Racy Affirmation for the Maturing Goddess Within by Christiane Northrup, MD

"I am Aphrodite. My body, mind, and spirit are wide open channels for total sexual ecstasy and abandon. I'm completely turned on and irresistible. I am the embodiment of wild abandon and pleasure. I am the Divine Courtesan. I make love with wild unleashed abandon. I am an unbridled, gorgeous, sexy force of nature. Divine love and divine sexuality now awaken me to sexual pleasure beyond my wildest dreams."

"...and by the way, Jean Ogden has pointed out that in her surveys; the women who are having the best sex of their lives are in their 60s and 70s..."

Christiane Nortrup, MD
Menopause and Beyond: New Wisdom for Women

I have been awakened and inspired to live out my life with the grace of a goddess. Through love, compassion, kindness, and a heartfelt passion for life, I will pursue the things that bring me joy and let go the things that I must. I know that age is truly just a number! With an ignited soul, I know that it is only the beginning of a golden age to be experienced and felt from deep within! How very grateful I am.




Image Credits: Sandro Botticelli, The Birth of Venus (c. 1486).

Sunday, March 27, 2016

The New Moon in Aries - Planting the Seeds of Wise Intention


"In order to have a closer relationship to nature, we plant our seeds, our intentions, when the moon is 'new' and nourish them as the moon grows into fullness. It’s also a really potent time for setting intentions, astrologically speaking. If the astrology isn’t really your thing, just think acknowledging the New Moon as a way of syncing with nature." Chris Maddox,  Wild Woman Project




As I write this, I am contemplating the details and content of the very first Wild Woman Moon Circle that I will be leading on April 8th after graduating from the leadership training through the Wild Woman Project. This months theme is all about taking action, managing conflicts well, and activating the Wise Warrior archetype within; because the new moon will be in Aries. Aries is a masculine energy-driven sign. Its energy can be impulsive, aggressive, and hot-tempered. The ruling planet of Aries is Mars, which often signifies the energy of conflict. For this reason, this month's theme is all about activating the Wise Warrior archetype that lives within.

By embracing the "Wise Warrior" archetype, we can go deeper to discover what in our lives is worth fighting for...and then seek out inner guidance to find the path that makes it possible to fight for those things in a way that is wise, thoughtful, and heart-centered. Through visualizations, we will explore our own inner-landscapes, journal our discoveries, and then share what comes up in a safe and sacred space. As I contemplate the theme for the New Moon in Aries, I must also think about my own life and what I feel is worth fighting for. For me, the things worth fighting for will always be love, the path to freedom, independence, self-expression, and self-possession; to be whole, fully alive, and creatively expressive in this life. These are all so important to me, and definitely worth fighting for...even if it means going against the grain and undoing self-defeating patterns.

So now I ask this question of you...

What is worth fighting for in your life, and what will you do to make sure that you can achieve what you desire in a way that is wise, thoughtful, and heart-centered?

For this new moon, I invite you to contemplate this question and let your inner-guidance lead you to discovering the answer.







Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Circling to Hold Space for One Another

When women gather in circle, it is done in the spirt of holding space for one another in a non-judgmental safe environment; where they can be themselves in their most natural state of being, and to be expressive about whatever shows up for them as they begin to connect mind-to-heart. As we strive to be fully alive, and fully ourselves, we assert that we will no longer allow ourselves to live as only a shade of who we really are inside because it is displeasing to another. To circle is to support this assertion as a sisterhood of women who build each other up, and not tear each other down.


Aligning with Lunar Cycles


The purpose of aligning with Lunar cycles is a symbolic one. The Moon symbolizes feminine energy, which is luminous and magnetic. When we circle, we do so to nurture the sacred feminine in all women; individually and as a collective. Through the Moon, we learn about lunar cycles and how it mirrors the creative process. By understanding these cycles, we can see our lives in a way that allows us to mirror the cycles of waxing and waning for personal growth and renewal. It is truly a beautiful experience. 





Next New Moon Circle - April 8th!


For the New Moon in Aries


Astrological patterns for March 2016


Thursday, March 10, 2016

On Becoming Self Possessed

"No matter what comes, joy or shit or anything in between, you won't let it destroy you. That's what being self-possessed means" --Rachel Alexandria--


What does it mean to be a self-possessed woman? To me, it means having enough love for self to avoid unhealthy people, places, and things. It sounds easy enough until the heart becomes involved.  When the heart and head begin to be in conflict with each other, the earth begins to shake from beneath us. It's in those moments when we forge the strength of our character, the place where we walk through the fire to become more whole on the other side. This is a dark place of uncertainty where we all walk in faith knowing that somehow everything will be OK after all has been said and done starting with the first step, and starting from Day 1.

If you find yourself in such a place, my intention for you, is that you find grace somehow within yourself to do the right things that will bring peace to your aching hearts. Be still often enough to hear inner guidance calling. Don't be afraid.




Dancing to "That Fever" by Davidge
Posted by Suzette Monique on Saturday, March 5, 2016

Saturday, March 5, 2016

Dancing for the Powerful New Moon in Pisces Coming March 8th - A time for spirituality and creativity!






Dancing for the New Moon in Pieces 2016
A dance in celebration of the New Moon on March 8th, 2016. It is the New Moon in Pisces. A time for spirituality, and creativeness! Song "Tides" by Eivor (Loving her music!)



Saturday, February 27, 2016

New Beginnings...Anahata!



"Anahata" - Unstruck, Unbeaten, Unbreakable!


This morning was the last session of my Wild Woman Project leadership training. It was bittersweet. The tears were streaming. These past 7 weeks have been nothing short of transformational. When I first began this journey, a spark had just been ignited in me. A flash of realization and personal discovery that led me to answer a call when it came. I will never be the same again. 


There has been so much change happening in my inner life in recent months; as though something larger than myself is unfolding. Something that I was born to be a part of. Never have I been surrounded by such lighted and ignited souls; I have gained so much in such a short time. How truly grateful I am and humbled by the experience. I see now that so much is possible when we allow ourselves to open our hearts and listen to Spirit; when we allow inner guidance that is both ancient and all-knowing to guide us through to the right things...even when those right things do not make a whole lot of sense at first. In these last 7 weeks, I have learned to trust my inner guidance...to let go...and to let be what will be. 

I have been awakened and can never go back to sleep. I can never let myself fall back into the lull of life ever again. I have a job to do, a life to live, joys to experience, and love to share. Falling back to unconsciousness is not an option anymore. Allowing the disconnection to self is not an option anymore. Blocking vulnerability and human connection is not an option anymore. Ignoring inner guidance and ignoring my heart when it speaks to me is not an option anymore. I have been awakened.                                                

                                                  Anahata!




Monday, February 22, 2016

Inner Guidance and the Full Moon in Virgo






Tonight is special. It is the night of the Full Moon in Virgo. Symbolically, a Full Moon is a time of renewal; when we must decide what is no longer healthy and good; so that we may devote more energy to nurture that which is. This decision is not always an easy one to make, but if we listen to our inner guidance, there we will always find the truth. As I have recently discovered, our inner guidance system is quite a significant part of our energetic anatomy. I never realized this before. It is very fascinating. In fact, this was the topic of discussion in one of my trainings last week in the Wild Woman Project.

Becoming Aware of Inner Guidance


Inner guidance is how we navigate the unseen things in our lives; it is important to listen to it. This point was made clear when--during a training exercise--I was asked to envision a split screen with one side playing back a memory of a time when I went against my intuition vs. a time in my life when I followed it. How did it feel? This question was asked of me.

As I thought back to remember a time when I went against my inner guidance, I remembered feeling drained. I did not have a good feeling inside overall. On the other side of the split screen, I listened to my inner guidance. It was energizing, and felt good. This was an eye opener for me. Sometimes, what’s good for us is not always what we want. It becomes necessary to listen closely and trust inner guidance, because it ALWAYS knows what is really good for us; and what is not.

In the book Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom: Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing, Christiane Northrup, M.D. (2010) explains that “Living in touch with our inner guidance involves feeling our way through life using all of ourselves; mind, body, emotions, and Spirit” (p. 50), so when something doesn’t feel right, it is probably not right. We can generally trust that our gut feeling about someone or something is accurate information, because this instinct comes from our solar plexus, which serves as our “primitive brain," or that part of the body which lets us know "whether we are safe or whether we are being lied to" (Northrup, 2010, p. 51).

Inner Guidance and the Energy System 


Christiane (2010) also explains how our energy system works; that it is “mediated via our thoughts, emotions, dreams, and bodily feelings” (p. 50), and that our bodies are “designed to act as receiving and transmitting stations for energy and information” (p. 50). This means that we have very sensitive and powerful BS detectors built-in within each of us. The challenge then is to trust it when it starts going off, and then having enough self-love to think things through realistically. Should I go? Should I stay? Should I keep it, or leave it alone? All of these questions come into play when intuition activates awareness of the truth…no matter how much it may—or may not--hurt. Following inner guidance will always prove to be the right thing to do ultimately.

Letting Go and Letting Be  


The time of the Full Moon is a time for reflection, renewal, and for letting go of unhealthy things in our lives. In Virgo, this Full Moon is all about maximizing our effectiveness. Symbolically, the Moon teaches us of a time when it becomes necessary to recede and cast aside unhealthy things and situations in order to make room for new and healthier ones to grow. When the Moon becomes full, she begins the process of waning, which is a time when she recedes and shrinks to become a New Moon again…a time for new beginnings. The Full Moon represents a time to think hard about what is really working, and what is not working; then letting go of what is not working, so that what is working can come through better and stronger. This is a time for getting real with oneself about certain situations, and then loving oneself enough to let go when the truth reveals that things are not what they seem.

Intentions on this Full Moon in Virgo


I will be thinking hard on those things in my life that are genuinely good vs. those that are not good; and then give of myself only to those things that are genuinely good and life-enhancing. I will rely on my inner guidance to help me recognize the difference, and allow it to lead me to the truth. I will trust that whatever shows up for me during this time will be for the best. All will be well in the end.

Saturday, February 20, 2016

Aspirations Refined Today! A New Fire in the Belly!





My soul received a jolt today when I came upon this video of the extraordinary Rachel Brice. Holy shit! I know what I want to do! I want to study and practice with her and other great teachers like her to get into such a beautiful flow of dance; where every movement is so conditioned and controlled; while remaining ever so graceful and fluid. I am inspired! 


I know what I have to do, and it's time to get SERIOUS. Turn up the yoga, go deeper into self, into the practice, into my JOY! As the path forward continues unfolding, I anticipate cultivating a lot of new directions starting with the New Moon Circles I will be leading when I graduate from the Wild Woman Project leadership training! Things just keep getting better!

Spirit is leading me through my wild heart. I am continuing the path of meditative dance by studying modalities such as the 5Rhythms, and I will be exploring other modalities as well. Things are happening! A purpose that has been unfolding for me since late last year, has become clearer and more vivid today. My big WHY and YES! 

In this moment, my awakening has picked up momentum. There's a new and hotter Fire in the Belly since connecting to self, to soul, to music, to dance, to love, and to friendship. These are the things that make me feel whole, and fully alive! How very grateful I am! 

It's time to turn up the heat! I am so inspired and READY for this journey! Joyful indeed, and super EXCITED!



Why Connection Needs Communication to Grow Strong


(Image source: AfraidtoAsk.com)



"Communication is the most important skill in life. You spend years learning how to read and write, and years learning how to speak. But what about listening? What training have you had that enables you to listen so you really, deeply understand another human being? Probably none, right?" (Stephen covey.com)

Nothing makes us realize the importance of communication more than when it is missing or sorely lacking. Some of us do this to avoid facing unpleasant topics, or some might do this to buy time and delay an inevitable discussion. In any case, when communication stops, relationships of all types suffer as a result. It doesn't matter if it's a family member, a friend, a spouse, a partner, a son, or a daughter. When communication stops, it becomes a struggle to maintain a meeting of the minds; there can be no mutual understanding, no trust, and no mutual respect between people. 

I keep coming back to the 7 Habits of Highly Effective people; Habit 5 - Seek first to understand then to be understood. So much misunderstanding happens needlessly when communication and deep mutual understanding are missing from any type of relationship, connection, or association.  

"If you're like most people, you probably seek first to be understood; you want to get your point across. And in doing so, you may ignore the other person completely, pretend that you're listening, selectively hear only certain parts of the conversation or attentively focus on only the words being said, but miss the meaning entirely. So why does this happen? Because most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand. You listen to yourself as you prepare in your mind what you are going to say, the questions you are going to ask, etc. You filter everything you hear through your life experiences, your frame of reference. You check what you hear against your autobiography and see how it measures up. And consequently, you decide prematurely what the other person means before he/she finishes communicating. Do any of the following sound familiar?" (StephenCovey.com)

When a connection means a lot, it is worth the investment of time and energy to communicate, to deeply listen, and to understand one another. The result is a meaningful connection that stands the test of time, because it shows that people care enough to invest of themselves. Mutual trust, respect, and admiration can grow to be solid and strong for years to come. These are the kinds of connections I want in my life regardless of relationship type or association. When life dishes out a bowl of bitter lemons, these are the kinds of connections that make life sweeter...the "sugar" in the "lemonade" that makes life bearable.   



Saturday, February 13, 2016

Moving to "Secret Garden" by Eivor

When the mood to dance strikes, I just gotta do it!






Saturday, February 6, 2016

Tha Dance of Life

Life is ever-changing. The more we live, the more we learn; the more we become aware of what is really possible in this life. Awareness opens us up to other ways of perceiving.  Things are never cut and dry...black or white. Rather, there is a full spectrum of grey in between. It's up to us to decide where we want to be.

So many cultural beliefs, values, and worldviews. When we open our minds we can see perspectives other than our own. This makes for deep understanding of another. A deep understanding creates a healing effect, because people at their core desire to be understood and accepted for who they are.

Most human beings desire to be loved unconditionally, and they usually will blossom in their own right as a result of being loved so.


Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Feeling this song by: Eivør Pálsdóttir: Tròdlabùndin



Feeling this song by: Eivør Pálsdóttir: Tròdlabùndin#TheWildishPath
Posted by Suzette West on Wednesday, February 3, 2016

Monday, February 1, 2016

Learning More About Vulnerability




I really get what Brene Brown means about vulnerability being  good and necessary. It forces a person to reflect and examine themselves. For most people, the experience of vulnerability is not a good one. It's an uncomfortable place to be. Even still, it is necessary; because vulnerability is needed for connection...that thing we all need in our lives to one degree or another. 

Even the path to reconnecting to the soul requires vulnerability, and it can be downright scary for many; because this path is a deep and lengthy process. We face ourselves. We face our vulnerabilities on the way to reconnecting to ourselves. The challenge is real, but the reward is immeasurable....feeling alive and whole.

If you are reading this, and you are having a tough time right now, open your heart and use your intuition to connect to your divine source. Seek guidance and comfort there.
Surely, you were not meant to suffer forever. Take heart and keep faith that things will somehow work out; that all will be well in the end after all is said and done. What is meant to be will be. What is not meant to be will not be. Trust and let go.

Saturday, January 30, 2016

On The Power of Vulnerability



I recently watched a TED Talk by Brene Brown about the power of vulnerability. It made me think about what it means to be vulnerable, and what it means to have the courage to be vulnerable for those things that are important to us. What struck me most about her talk was when she described what happens to us when we numb ourselves from feeling the uncomfortable emotion of vulnerability. She said that when we block ourselves from the feeling of vulnerability, we also block our ability to feel everything else...love, joy, happiness. We cannot selectively block out certain emotions;

"You can't say, here's the bad stuff. Here's vulnerability, here's grief, here's shame, here's fear, here's disappointment. I don't want to feel these. I'm going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin." (Brown, 2010).


"You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then, we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle" (Brene Brown, 2010). 


Upon reading this, it came to me that in order to feel fully alive, I must be willing to live and love with my whole heart. I must love fiercely without conditions, guarantees, or expectations. I must have the courage to live life beautifully flawed and imperfect, because that is what it means to BE fully alive and to live as a being who fully inhabits their body, mind, and soul. I embark on this journey with gratitude, as I continue the path forward. I will continue to learn, to love, to grow, and to evolve into the version of myself who will fulfill a destined higher purpose; the reason I was born.

Source:

Brown, B (2010) The Power of Vulnerability. TED Talk. Retrieved Jan, 30 2016 from https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en

Monday, January 25, 2016

Suppressing the Soul; Running from Spirit



It does become a habit to suppress our souls for the sake of survival. What happens is that the routine of life creates a lull of sorts; it takes over and hypnotizes the masses into this life-draining series of repetitive daily events until months and years pass them by; ultimately turning people into living drones in a world full of programmed people and things. Those that cannot be programmed live life on the fringes, because they can't "get with the program." 
If they can't get with the program, life gets a little harder for them, and people like them. The choice to be free is by no means an easy one--because for most--it scares them to be on the outside. It scares them to be free! That's how people get stuck in their lives...through their fear of the unseen...and a fear of the unknown. 
They prefer to stay comfortable in their shells and in their stable lives...even if it means feeling like they are selling their souls...even if it means forgetting who they are inside. They want a steady and unchanging perpetual environment..but, there's only one problem with this. Nothing stays the same. Ever. 
Like the Moon, life is constantly changing.  The ones with the wild spirits. They can't live in a cocoon. They can't stand still, or stay the same. The ones with the wild hearts, they are natural seekers. At some point Spirit calls to them, and they MUST bust out! They are compelled to act by their instinctive nature to RUN to Spirit, and not to hide from it. A wild heart can never be tamed, and therefore will always hear when Spirit calls...like it or not.


Saturday, January 23, 2016

Compassion, Patience, and Kindness Amidst Chaos



No life is without change, and no change is without chaos. How we handle chaos depends on many things like our personality, our character, our mindset (positive or negative). Change whether good or bad is chaotic by nature, and comes with a lot of uncertainty in the process. To be in the middle of uncertainty is a most unsettling place to be, and downright scary for many...including myself.

During times of major upheaval, I choose to be the best version of myself. I choose to feel compassion for those suffering closest to me. I choose to be patient with myself and others. I choose to love unconditionally, and to be kind to self and others. For in these times of great transition, the seeds we sow today will bear to fruit the experiences we reap tomorrow.

A great transition is afoot, and I don't know where it's going. All I know is that I must follow what calls to my heart and soul. All I know is that Spirit is calling me to make right all the things that are wrong in my life; to heal and to be reconnected to my body, to my mind, and to my soul. To become a whole independently vibrant person, and not to be a fragmented withering soul that lives to be only a shade of who she really is inside; waiting for the end of days. Waiting for grace and redemption.

I choose to face the unknown for love. I choose to embrace whatever change Spirit has in store for me, and to bravely traverse the landscape with faith, kindness, transparency, patience with the process, and a silent prayer in my heart that all will be well in the end somehow.

My Intention

In the week ahead, I will relate to my life with compassion, patience, and a kind heart. May those around me feel grace upon them. May they feel protected. May they feel hope. May they feel loved and understood.

Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Aligning with the Moon



I am feeling inspired to connect with the Moon. I want to gaze upon her, learn from her, and learn more about her cycles. I want to understand how she teaches, and feel the magic of her beauty every night no matter where she might be in the sky. What beautiful things I am learning! So grateful indeed!