Wednesday, November 9, 2016
"You are helpless when you believe you can do nothing, and that belief keeps you from trying. You escape when you have learned to do something to avoid pain, and you refuse to try anything else. The very thing you have learned to do is the thing that keeps you from learning that something else is possible, that things have changed, that things could change for you" (pg. 35) --Blaine Lee, The Power Principle: Influence with Honor
When a person gets caught up in learned helplessness, all possibilities in life cease to exist. There is only fear, stagnation, and ultimately the withering of the soul; along with all of its desires and aspirations. Sometimes, the fear that's blocking the way forward belongs to someone else through discouraging advice and opinions. Whatever form fear takes, it is debilitating. Fear is a blinding barrier to all who allow it to be so. It makes the way forward unclear and hopeless, and it may feel like one is living a life prescribed by someone else's desires rather than living a life according to ones own true desires and inner-yearnings.
Living life according to the desires of other people is how a person ends up out of alignment with themselves; when head and heart are in conflict because the heart says to do one thing, and the head is doing what someone else is prescribing as the "right and only way." It makes learned helplessness a deep and painful reality...so very difficult to get out of.
The desire to overcome this state of helplessness must be stronger than fear itself, if there is to be any real and lasting change. This burning desire is the "seed" that inspires the actions necessary to find a way out of learned helplessness. In the face of overwhelming odds and challenges, this deep desire for change is necessary to align head and heart, and to transform life from one day to the next.
As we approach the mid-point of this Desire Moon, let's think about the ways we block our own desires. Let's get really clear on what it is that keeps us from achieving our heart's desire, so we can set the intentions to release them at Full Moon time; even if it means releasing the need to live life according to the fears and limitations of others.
Be true to yourself. Be true to your heart, and be true to your own heart's desire.
"To thine own self be true" --William Shakespeare
Friday, October 14, 2016
As we approach the Full Moon, let's dive deeper into our Mystic Love Moon theme for the New Moon in Libra. Let's look through the lens of unconditional love, and see how we might transform dark energies in our lives right now.
What might we want or need to release to allow the flow of unconditional love to transform the dark energies that threaten to sabotage happiness and the path forward?
As a gift to yourself, make time for spaciousness and contemplation. Open the jewel that is your heart, and seek answers there. This is your way through the storm. This is the way into the light of your best transformed self. Release what is no longer serving you, so that there is room for planted intentions to grow.
Think of a garden full of weeds. If we do not go into the garden and pull out the weeds, the weeds will rob nutrition from the flowers and the blossoms that we originally intended to grow. It's the same with the intentions we set. At some point, we must energetically "pull weeds" and release what no longer serves us to make room for our original intentions to grow strong, and to make room for the planting of new intentions for a blossoming life.
Thursday, October 6, 2016
Marianne Williamson, "Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles"
Sunday, September 18, 2016
This is an important word, because in order to have temperance, one must be willing to "let go" a little; let go of fears, let go of worries, and let go of anxieties. It is right in line with the spirit of the full moon; a time of release. Every major undertaking takes a degree of temperance to go at a pace that is slow enough to spot and resolve issues before they become issues. It was the perfect theme for the day.
Temperance fits so perfectly, because it is always our intention during full moon time to release and let go of what is no longer serving us in the greater picture; for example, an unhealthy way of thinking or perceiving a situation. Perhaps it is an unhealthy way of living or eating that needs changing. Full moon time is all about letting go of what keeps us from our true happiness, and what blocks us from our joy; whether self-imposed or not.
To find temperance, one must first find the source of fear that is in control, because fear causes many to act in ways that are more often than not self-sabotaging. Fear can be a barrier to mutual understanding. It can stop a person from trying anything new; or worse, giving up entirely before knowing the full extent of possibilities in any given situation. With temperance, a person slows down and has the time and space to observe and respond appropriately to changing climates in any given environment. Therefore, as the Moon begins her wane, I ask you this. What is in your life now that requires temperance, and what will you have to let go to obtain it?
Wednesday, September 14, 2016
With divine love and courage, stand in the truth of the heart. Whatever is meant to be will be; what is not meant to be will not. Give it all up to Divine Will, and accept whatever outcome evolves. Trust in the power of love, kindness, compassion, and forgiveness to bring about the best outcome. No matter the suffering, all will be well in the end...somehow. Trust this. Know that it will be OK.
Tuesday, August 30, 2016
My need for self-reflection led me to miss out on many of the events that I had planned to attend, but my purpose for being there called for me to spend a lot of time alone to think, pray, meditate and deeply connect to my inner-knowing. It was then that the truth came to me. Freedom is a way of thinking and perceiving. It is a state of mind. If I desire to find my “wings,” I would have to understand that it all begins in the mind. This realization opened my awareness tremendously. I know what I have to do to find my wings, and the truth of the matter is that I ALREADY have them! They only need to be exercised, and I haven’t been. Freedom is like developing muscles; it only grows when exercised. As one dear friend once told me, there are many things in life that you have to use or you will lose. Freedom is definitely in that category of things.
Freedom will atrophy much like a muscle if never exercised. Freedom of thought can atrophy when subject to the “good opinion of others” as Dr Wayne Dyer once said. I went to the Mountain to find my wings, and in so doing found the seed of truth that was in my heart all along. I only needed to slow down long enough to connect to inner-guidance, and to access the answers that were already in there. It is both exciting and terrifying, because the path forward may not be well-received by every person in my life. However, I cannot let that stop me. I can no longer ignore the call in my heart. I can no longer ignore the truth of what my soul needs to thrive. Like the wind—freedom calls to my sense of independence and autonomy…beckoning me to spread my wings. The urge to fly reemerges, but not without the need to reclaim the power given away for many years. Wings cannot do what they were born to do, if they are never used…never exercised.
Wings require exercise and to do that requires freedom; freedom of mind, freedom of body, and freedom of spirit. Even within committed relationships, there must be a sense of independence, autonomy, and a deep sense of trust and mutual respect for the individual within the partnership. Without independence, there can be no Interdependence; and without interdependence, all you have is co-dependence. Freedom requires independence, and as such, so do our symbolic wings.
If freedom is a state of mind, then one must understand what it means in order to look through the “lens” of freedom, and use critical thought to discern what a person with “wings” would do in any given situation. This will surely upset the balance in life in many ways, but the inertia from ignoring the soul’s call would be far more unbearable, if ignored.
I went to the Mountain to find my wings, and came back with more than I could ever have bargained for. I am truly grateful...and so the journey continues.
Wednesday, July 20, 2016
As I learn more about the ego and the ways it can destroy happiness, I realize more and more that it is better to let go of fear and anxiety than to risk sabotaging what could grow into beautiful life treasures. When we act out of fear, we only plant seeds of sorrow, despair, and insecurity. We perpetuate our own suffering. We miss out on the connection to inner-guidance and to other people, because we are too busy worrying inside of our own heads; creating turmoil from past hurtful experiences. Ego can be especially tough on us when hurtful experiences from the past were deep and devastating like a past betrayal lingering unresolved for many years; the loss of love, or a passion that died somewhere along the way. Whatever happened in the past to create the traumatic experience, the subconscious mind doesn't know any better. It projects a painful past experience to the present day as a way of protecting us from something ever happening again; even if it is not really happening. Ego will sabotage our chances for happiness every time we let it run away with our peace of mind.
When ego is in control we essentially end up living in the past or anxious about the future. We do not live in the present moment where the truth resides. The mind replays traumatic experiences as a way of warning us that a potential situation may be unfolding and repeating itself, when perhaps it is not. The worry stemming from these thoughts causes fear and anxiety to resurface; bringing with it...the fear of loss...the fear of loneliness...the fear of rejection and abandonment. We end up acting out of fear, and then a self-fulfilling prophecy develops because we materialize what we pour our energy into; regardless of whether it's the desired effect. When we find something precious that brings so much joy to our lives, the last thing we want to do is to let fear and anxiety destroy it's chances of survival. Ego will take over and create turmoil where none previously existed.
For the sake of happiness and peace of mind, I am making a commitment to live in the present moment; to see each experience as a brand new one capable of its own outcome. I am making a commitment to dissolve the Ego and to live in the present moment with a heart full of love, gratitude, grace, kindness, compassion, tolerance, and forgiveness. I will learn to trust, to let go, and to let be. I will no longer allow Ego to rob me of happiness and human connection. With a heartfelt gratitude, I hope the same for you. As the moon begins its wane, let peace find you as you release fear and anxiety from your mind to make room for inner-peace and happiness within your heart.
"This whole practice of dissolving ego is like one big detox. You know how crappy you feel after a night out spent wallowing in happy indulgence? The headaches, the cravings, the low mood? Yeah, that’s your liver detoxing and ridding itself of the alcohol/sugar/bad fats/what-have-you. The anger and self-righteousness you begin to feel after starting this process is the same thing. And just like a hangover, all you can do is wait it out and make the best choices you can stomach."
"Free Yourself from Ego in Three Easy Steps" by Amy Jirsa, MindBodyGreen.com
Thursday, July 14, 2016
At the point of fullness, she begins waning into a new moon again. In the same way, when we grow full, there comes a time when we must acknowledge and release things that no longer makes sense to hold on to. Maybe it is an old way of thinking, being, or living that is not working anymore. Whatever it is, it is holding us back or bringing us down.
Maybe it's an unhealthy way of thinking, a feeling of insecurity, a relationship that brings nothing but sorrow, or a soul-crushing job that is siphoning the passion out of life. Maybe it's a bad habit that needs breaking. Whatever it is, we know on some deep level that there will come a time when letting go may be the right thing to do; or in fact, the only thing to do. The question is, can we let go when hanging on stops making sense?
As the full moon approaches, I find myself thinking about this more every day. I think about things that should be released in order to make room for new healthier ways of thinking and being to emerge; to become lighter for the journey ahead...to find wholeness and peace of mind.
The answer is not always obvious; but if something frazzles the mind and tears at the heart often enough, then this might be a good place to start observing and contemplating the reasons why.
Saturday, July 9, 2016
There is no running from a destined path. Once the eyes have been opened, the seen cannot be unseen. The newly realized cannot be unrealized. Yet there are those whose insecurities would see ignorance maintained. They would see a dream die...because somehow they feel and fear it would exclude them. These people make themselves roadblocks to answering the call of a dream, because they have a deep fear of being "left behind"...or of somehow being forgotten when it couldn't be further from the truth.
Overcoming these roadblocks is tough when not supported, or when it's discouraged...when friends or family disapprove, and the tendency is to remain in compliance. One can feel stifled, held down, held back, and kept from pursuing a life's dream. Stop it! Take the chance! Stop letting other people's hang-ups kill what could be a beautiful gift to the world.
One step at a time, figure it out! Destiny will unfold it's path. When it does, it always starts by putting one foot in front of the other, and taking one step at a time. A dream unfolds a little every day with applied concentrated focus. Stay true. Don't let anyone take it away. Pursuit it! Don't let the drone of life drain away the time until it's gone forever, and opportunities slip away.
Take action every day with even the smallest steps. Little by little, walk the destined path...until the dream is finally real.
Wednesday, June 29, 2016
I think of the Great Mother as a loving, nurturing, and glowing energy...a cool and soothing essence. I love the idea of the Moon as an embodiment of this Great Mother archetype; because she is constant in her lessons of the creative process. When she grows into fullness and then wanes into complete darkness, I understand how darkness is sometimes necessary for change and personal growth. In darkness, we plant our seeds of intention, contemplate new ideas, delve into self-reflection, and engage inner guidance for direction, strength, and personal renewal. Yet it's in the darkness where we can experience the most pain and discomfort as we face our deepest fears and insecurities with grace and dignity.
Living through a dark night is never easy. This is a period of a person's life when they find themselves tested at the soul level; when the mind and heart are at complete odds with each other. A dark night is unrelenting. It can challenge old beliefs and perceptions, and shake our existence to the very core. What was once an obvious choice is no longer so obvious. Feelings, circumstances, and situations can change in unexpected ways. Facing a dark night means facing uncertainty, and facing ourselves in the quest to reconcile the heart with the mind; to find harmony and inner-peace again.
A dark night will test us, and then take us to our darkest depths until we find a way to free ourselves; to ignite our inner-fire, and to discover what sets our soul ablaze with fulfillment, meaning, purpose, and happiness. Living in darkness is a temporary state, as the moon teaches when she wanes to darkness and then grows to fullness again. As such, darkness is a natural part of the human experience. We should not be afraid. Even when we find ourselves living in darkness, things eventually come to the light. Eventually, a path opens up to a better way forward…to a place of inner peace and knowing that all will be well in the end somehow.
Monday, June 13, 2016
Saturday, June 11, 2016
For every person, there are so many directions one can take in life; but which direction is the right one? Unless someone is focused and connected to inner guidance at all times, the right way forward may not always be so clear.
It's too easy to go down a road paved with the intentions, limitations, fears, and expectations of others. It becomes so important to remain aware of our own strength, desires, and aspirations in the face of those who are negative and unsupportive; to persevere through the toughest sense of resistance that lingers within us. It is unwise to continue down the path of least resistence when that path goes in a direction that is different from where we truly want to be in life.
The reward for vigilance is a self-directed path towards our truest selves; to our life's passion, to our joy, and to our deepest bliss.
We NEED to connect to our bliss, to source energy, to the Divine, and to Divine Love...a self-less love without conditions. A soulful heart MUST do what's necessary to bring about changes to conditions that would otherwise hold us back, keep us down, keep us dependent, or make us unhappy in the long run.
When the soul stirs, there is no waiting. There is only here and now. When we live in the present moment, we have the power to make every minute count towards reuniting us with our passion, to our true desired path, and to our unconditional happiness.
Let's resolve to stay focused, listen closely to inner-guidance. Let's have no fear in what the future may hold, and BELIEVE in possibilities.
What is meant to be will be.
Thursday, June 2, 2016
Wednesday, June 1, 2016
"...and by the way, Jean Ogden has pointed out that in her surveys; the women who are having the best sex of their lives are in their 60s and 70s..."
Christiane Nortrup, MD
Menopause and Beyond: New Wisdom for Women
I have been awakened and inspired to live out my life with the grace of a goddess. Through love, compassion, kindness, and a heartfelt passion for life, I will pursue the things that bring me joy and let go the things that I must. I know that age is truly just a number! With an ignited soul, I know that it is only the beginning of a golden age to be experienced and felt from deep within! How very grateful I am.
Friday, April 8, 2016
Sunday, March 27, 2016
"In order to have a closer relationship to nature, we plant our seeds, our intentions, when the moon is 'new' and nourish them as the moon grows into fullness. It’s also a really potent time for setting intentions, astrologically speaking. If the astrology isn’t really your thing, just think acknowledging the New Moon as a way of syncing with nature." Chris Maddox, Wild Woman Project
As I write this, I am contemplating the details and content of the very first Wild Woman Moon Circle that I will be leading on April 8th after graduating from the leadership training through the Wild Woman Project. This months theme is all about taking action, managing conflicts well, and activating the Wise Warrior archetype within; because the new moon will be in Aries. Aries is a masculine energy-driven sign. Its energy can be impulsive, aggressive, and hot-tempered. The ruling planet of Aries is Mars, which often signifies the energy of conflict. For this reason, this month's theme is all about activating the Wise Warrior archetype that lives within.
By embracing the "Wise Warrior" archetype, we can go deeper to discover what in our lives is worth fighting for...and then seek out inner guidance to find the path that makes it possible to fight for those things in a way that is wise, thoughtful, and heart-centered. Through visualizations, we will explore our own inner-landscapes, journal our discoveries, and then share what comes up in a safe and sacred space. As I contemplate the theme for the New Moon in Aries, I must also think about my own life and what I feel is worth fighting for. For me, the things worth fighting for will always be love, the path to freedom, independence, self-expression, and self-possession; to be whole, fully alive, and creatively expressive in this life. These are all so important to me, and definitely worth fighting for...even if it means going against the grain and undoing self-defeating patterns.
So now I ask this question of you...
What is worth fighting for in your life, and what will you do to make sure that you can achieve what you desire in a way that is wise, thoughtful, and heart-centered?
For this new moon, I invite you to contemplate this question and let your inner-guidance lead you to discovering the answer.
Wednesday, March 23, 2016
Aligning with Lunar Cycles
The purpose of aligning with Lunar cycles is a symbolic one. The Moon symbolizes feminine energy, which is luminous and magnetic. When we circle, we do so to nurture the sacred feminine in all women; individually and as a collective. Through the Moon, we learn about lunar cycles and how it mirrors the creative process. By understanding these cycles, we can see our lives in a way that allows us to mirror the cycles of waxing and waning for personal growth and renewal. It is truly a beautiful experience.
Next New Moon Circle - April 8th!
Next New Moon Circle - April 8th!
For the New Moon in Aries
Thursday, March 10, 2016
What does it mean to be a self-possessed woman? To me, it means having enough love for self to avoid unhealthy people, places, and things. It sounds easy enough until the heart becomes involved. When the heart and head begin to be in conflict with each other, the earth begins to shake from beneath us. It's in those moments when we forge the strength of our character, the place where we walk through the fire to become more whole on the other side. This is a dark place of uncertainty where we all walk in faith knowing that somehow everything will be OK after all has been said and done starting with the first step, and starting from Day 1.
Saturday, March 5, 2016
Dancing for the Powerful New Moon in Pisces Coming March 8th - A time for spirituality and creativity!
Dancing for the New Moon in Pieces 2016
A dance in celebration of the New Moon on March 8th, 2016. It is the New Moon in Pisces. A time for spirituality, and creativeness! Song "Tides" by Eivor (Loving her music!)
Saturday, February 27, 2016
|"Anahata" - Unstruck, Unbeaten, Unbreakable!|
This morning was the last session of my Wild Woman Project leadership training. It was bittersweet. The tears were streaming. These past 7 weeks have been nothing short of transformational. When I first began this journey, a spark had just been ignited in me. A flash of realization and personal discovery that led me to answer a call when it came. I will never be the same again.
There has been so much change happening in my inner life in recent months; as though something larger than myself is unfolding. Something that I was born to be a part of. Never have I been surrounded by such lighted and ignited souls; I have gained so much in such a short time. How truly grateful I am and humbled by the experience. I see now that so much is possible when we allow ourselves to open our hearts and listen to Spirit; when we allow inner guidance that is both ancient and all-knowing to guide us through to the right things...even when those right things do not make a whole lot of sense at first. In these last 7 weeks, I have learned to trust my inner guidance...to let go...and to let be what will be.
I have been awakened and can never go back to sleep. I can never let myself fall back into the lull of life ever again. I have a job to do, a life to live, joys to experience, and love to share. Falling back to unconsciousness is not an option anymore. Allowing the disconnection to self is not an option anymore. Blocking vulnerability and human connection is not an option anymore. Ignoring inner guidance and ignoring my heart when it speaks to me is not an option anymore. I have been awakened.
Monday, February 22, 2016
Tonight is special. It is the night of the Full Moon in Virgo. Symbolically, a Full Moon is a time of renewal; when we must decide what is no longer healthy and good; so that we may devote more energy to nurture that which is. This decision is not always an easy one to make, but if we listen to our inner guidance, there we will always find the truth. As I have recently discovered, our inner guidance system is quite a significant part of our energetic anatomy. I never realized this before. It is very fascinating. In fact, this was the topic of discussion in one of my trainings last week in the Wild Woman Project.
Becoming Aware of Inner Guidance
Inner Guidance and the Energy System
Letting Go and Letting Be
Intentions on this Full Moon in Virgo
Saturday, February 20, 2016
My soul received a jolt today when I came upon this video of the extraordinary Rachel Brice. Holy shit! I know what I want to do! I want to study and practice with her and other great teachers like her to get into such a beautiful flow of dance; where every movement is so conditioned and controlled; while remaining ever so graceful and fluid. I am inspired!
I know what I have to do, and it's time to get SERIOUS. Turn up the yoga, go deeper into self, into the practice, into my JOY! As the path forward continues unfolding, I anticipate cultivating a lot of new directions starting with the New Moon Circles I will be leading when I graduate from the Wild Woman Project leadership training! Things just keep getting better!
Spirit is leading me through my wild heart. I am continuing the path of meditative dance by studying modalities such as the 5Rhythms, and I will be exploring other modalities as well. Things are happening! A purpose that has been unfolding for me since late last year, has become clearer and more vivid today. My big WHY and YES!
In this moment, my awakening has picked up momentum. There's a new and hotter Fire in the Belly since connecting to self, to soul, to music, to dance, to love, and to friendship. These are the things that make me feel whole, and fully alive! How very grateful I am!
It's time to turn up the heat! I am so inspired and READY for this journey! Joyful indeed, and super EXCITED!
Saturday, February 13, 2016
Saturday, February 6, 2016
Wednesday, February 3, 2016
Feeling this song by: Eivør Pálsdóttir: Tròdlabùndin#TheWildishPath
Posted by Suzette West on Wednesday, February 3, 2016
Monday, February 1, 2016
Even the path to reconnecting to the soul requires vulnerability, and it can be downright scary for many; because this path is a deep and lengthy process. We face ourselves. We face our vulnerabilities on the way to reconnecting to ourselves. The challenge is real, but the reward is immeasurable....feeling alive and whole.
Saturday, January 30, 2016
I recently watched a TED Talk by Brene Brown about the power of vulnerability. It made me think about what it means to be vulnerable, and what it means to have the courage to be vulnerable for those things that are important to us. What struck me most about her talk was when she described what happens to us when we numb ourselves from feeling the uncomfortable emotion of vulnerability. She said that when we block ourselves from the feeling of vulnerability, we also block our ability to feel everything else...love, joy, happiness. We cannot selectively block out certain emotions;
"You can't say, here's the bad stuff. Here's vulnerability, here's grief, here's shame, here's fear, here's disappointment. I don't want to feel these. I'm going to have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin." (Brown, 2010).
"You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then, we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning, and then we feel vulnerable, so then we have a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin. And it becomes this dangerous cycle" (Brene Brown, 2010).
Upon reading this, it came to me that in order to feel fully alive, I must be willing to live and love with my whole heart. I must love fiercely without conditions, guarantees, or expectations. I must have the courage to live life beautifully flawed and imperfect, because that is what it means to BE fully alive and to live as a being who fully inhabits their body, mind, and soul. I embark on this journey with gratitude, as I continue the path forward. I will continue to learn, to love, to grow, and to evolve into the version of myself who will fulfill a destined higher purpose; the reason I was born.
Brown, B (2010) The Power of Vulnerability. TED Talk. Retrieved Jan, 30 2016 from https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability?language=en
Monday, January 25, 2016
Saturday, January 23, 2016
No life is without change, and no change is without chaos. How we handle chaos depends on many things like our personality, our character, our mindset (positive or negative). Change whether good or bad is chaotic by nature, and comes with a lot of uncertainty in the process. To be in the middle of uncertainty is a most unsettling place to be, and downright scary for many...including myself.
During times of major upheaval, I choose to be the best version of myself. I choose to feel compassion for those suffering closest to me. I choose to be patient with myself and others. I choose to love unconditionally, and to be kind to self and others. For in these times of great transition, the seeds we sow today will bear to fruit the experiences we reap tomorrow.
A great transition is afoot, and I don't know where it's going. All I know is that I must follow what calls to my heart and soul. All I know is that Spirit is calling me to make right all the things that are wrong in my life; to heal and to be reconnected to my body, to my mind, and to my soul. To become a whole independently vibrant person, and not to be a fragmented withering soul that lives to be only a shade of who she really is inside; waiting for the end of days. Waiting for grace and redemption.
I choose to face the unknown for love. I choose to embrace whatever change Spirit has in store for me, and to bravely traverse the landscape with faith, kindness, transparency, patience with the process, and a silent prayer in my heart that all will be well in the end somehow.