Sunday, August 20, 2017

I Choose to Love

When I see a person, I do not see the color of their skin, lifestyle, or their religious background. I respect all walks of life and spiritual persuasions.

When I see a person, I see their heart and the essence of their character. I see the spirit that animates them whether they are loving, or not. I hold great respect for the many ways people choose to embrace the higher power that feeds  their soul. I will not judge people for who they are, or what they believe. Ever.

When we judge, we fear...and when we fear, it will only ever rob us of our joy...rob us of love for self and others...of friendships and connections that could have been lifelong.

Fear produces defensiveness, misunderstanding, mistrust, judgement, and hate. The world has had enough hate, and hate is darkness. The world needs more light...more understanding...less judgement...and more love. As author Caroline Myss once said, "Nothing grows in the shadows, and everything grows in the light."

Love is a light...a power from the energy that can transform to the highest good of all. Heart energy has the power to heal; to illuminate life; to build bridges instead of creating great divides. Where fear takes, love gives. It allows us to transform; to move from judgement to compassion...from fear to mutual trust and understanding...from hate to peace...from darkness to light.

I choose to love. Will you?

Sunday, July 16, 2017

The Intuition Moon Cycle - A closing reflection

As our Intuition Moon Cycle comes to a close, I feel guided to share my reflections for the last two moon cycles and how they tie into our upcoming "Self-love" Moon. 

For the new moon in Gemini, we explored the untapped depths of our minds in the Contemplative Moon Cycle, and for the new moon in Cancer, we explored the untapped intelligence of our hearts during this Intuition Moon Cycle. These two cycles prepare us for the upcoming Self-love Moon, because it requires self-love to cultivate, care for, nurture, and expand those depths within us.

Through contemplation, we can inquire deeply about things that materially affect the condition and quality of our lives. As we become clearer through contemplation, our Intuition kicks in to give ourselves guidance on those things we have contemplated.

Simply put, our contemplation assesses a situation deeply (mind intelligence) and our intuition guides the situation from our depths (heart intelligence) to open a path towards radical self-acceptance and self-fulfillment...a result of self-love.

So many of us struggle with this thing called "self-love," but let us endeavor to walk this divine path and co-create this healing container together when the moon is new again. Let us support and hold sacred space for one another in the spirit of unconditional love, kindness, compassion, and non-judgment. Together, we can heal. Together, we will RISE!

Monday, July 10, 2017

Forgiveness: A Step Towards Peace

Sometimes, in our humanness, we (or people around us) do or say things that we (or they) later regret. Perhaps we acted or said something out of fear instead of love. Whatever the situation, the error of judgement was realized and the heart is left aching with a sorrow so deep that only an act of the soul can ever heal it...the act of forgiving.

Forgiving oneself or someone else requires great love and courage. An article describes forgiveness as one of the "most liberating acts of self-love that one can do for themselves" with the result of "freeing oneself from hatred and living with a peaceful heart." I can think of nothing more beautiful, freeing, and healing than living a life with a peaceful heart. It is worth the seeking and giving of compassion and forgiveness, especially when relationships mean a lot to the people involved...when there is genuine care and concern...the special bond between them can survive and then thrive.

When people care about each other, it is worth the giving of empathy, compassion, mutual understanding, and forgiveness. It is worth owning up to whatever wrong was done and then making it right again. It is critical to become aware, to acknowledge, and to stop all hurtful and offending actions or deeds that divide instead of unite. It is worth walking through the transformational fire, mending fences, and walking in a state of grace with humility, respect, and deep love...for self and for others; to keep cherished relationships alive and healthy. It is worth walking through this fire to restore the balance of things; to restore good will and trust.

Whether we give or seek forgiveness, we can liberate the weight we carry inside and transcend the transgression; whatever it may be. From this, we can grow and heal in a meaningful way. We can extend good will, own up to things, and rebuild whatever trust was broken. With mutual compassion and empathy, we can see through the hurt and fear that caused the offending action or words. With mutual understanding, we can get through the tough times. We can overcome adversity. We can survive and thrive. With a mindful heart, we can remain sensitive to one another and set the intention to re-build healthy boundaries, to mend and heal whatever was broken. With forgiveness, a lightness of the soul can return and restore harmony to all. Endeavor to heal. Endeavor to love unconditionally. Endeavor to forgive, and let the heart be light again.

Friday, June 9, 2017

Conscious Uncoupling - A Contemplation

As I contemplate my marriage, I am realizing more every day that marriage is not meant to be a life sentence. As people, we change over time based on life experiences. We often find that through these experiences we change. For some couples, it is a harmonious pairing and they can change and grow together. For others, the pairing is not harmonious and the change is so much that at the core, they become so different from who they were when they first got married. The pairing becomes contentious, adversarial, and so deep in resentment. The relationship becomes toxic and draining. While many might see this as a form of failure, it is actually not a failure, but a signal to grow and evolve. At a deeper level, it's an invitation to heal the old scars and emotional wounds from the past.

Marriage is not meant to be a self-imposed prison with people at each other's throats most of the time...if not all of the time. The illusion that "everyone goes through this" is false. Sure, there are good and bad times in all relationships; but when something is deeply wrong, it creates the condition of a soul-sucking experience and it becomes a self-imposed life sentence by choice. I became more aware of this choice when I learned of a term called "Conscious Uncoupling"... a term that releases a person from the self-imposed notion that says we fail when we leave a toxic relationship. Instead, Conscious Uncoupling means honoring the memory of a relationship in a way that recognizes it as a teacher, and as a necessary part of our own inner growth. With Conscious Uncoupling, neither party is good or bad, but changed...and changed for the better, if we so choose.

"Nearly everyone comes into a new marriage idealizing their partner. Everything is perfect in their minds because they’ve misidentified what marriage is really about. As far as they’re concerned, they’ve found the love of their life, the person who understands them completely. Yes, there will be hiccups in the process, but by and large, there’s no more learning left to do. They’ll both be the same people 10 or 20 years from now as they are today. When we idealize our partners, things initially go very well as we subconsciously project our own positive qualities, as well as the qualities we wish we had, onto them. This positive projection, as it’s called, happens during the honeymoon phase of the relationship where both partners can do no wrong in each other’s eyes.

Sooner or later, the honeymoon ends and reality sets in, so does negative projection. This is usually when we stop projecting positive things onto our partners and begin to project our negative issue onto them instead. Unfortunately, this creates a boomerang effect as these negative issues always come right back to us, triggering our unconscious and long-buried negative internal objects, which are our deepest hurts, betrayals, and traumas. This back-and-forth process of projection and aggravation can escalate to the point where it impacts our psychic structure with even more trauma.

For most of us, these old unresolved issues can be traced back to our first intensely emotional relationship, the one we had with our parents. Because most of these old wounds are unconscious to us as adults, we’re subconsciously driven to resolve them, which is why many people end up with partners that are very similar in key ways to their mother or father. If we’re not in tune with this type of dynamic within our relationship, all we end up seeing is the repeated mistrust, abandonment, or other issue that’s followed us through all our previous relationships. We never see that it’s the signal to heal the emotional wound that’s connected to it. Instead, we choose to blame the other person.

Because we believed so strongly in the 'until death do us part' concept, we see the demise of our marriage as a failure, bringing with it shame, guilt, or regret. Since most of us don’t want to face what we see as a personal failure, we retreat into resentment and anger, and resort to attacking each other instead. We’ve put on our armor and we’re ready to do battle. What we don’t realize is that while a full body shield may offer a level of self-protection, it’s also a form of self-imprisonment that locks us inside a life that repeats the same mistakes over and over again. This includes attracting the same kind of partners to push the same emotional buttons for us until we recognize the deeper purpose of such a relationship."

--Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami


Sunday, April 2, 2017

The Mystic Power Moon: Intentions for the New Moon in Aries

Last night I led circle, and in circle we always draw from oracle cards as tools to help us set the most powerful intentions for the coming Lunar cycle. Of the Goddess cards, I drew Kuan Yin. She is the Chinese Goddess of Compassion. The message said, "Release judgments about yourself and others, and focus on the love and light within everyone"...sometimes this is so hard to do.

The second card I drew came from the Earth Magic oracle cards. I drew the card "Waterfall - Effortless"...this card reads...

"You have come to the edge of your comfort zone and find yourself fighting to resist moving past that perceived precipice of who you are, how you can be, or what you can do. Spirit is asking you to step beyond the edge and allow yourself to do so with ease rather than struggle. Yes, at times physical exertion is necessary, but when performed with fluidity and grace, even when the task seems daunting, you'll find that the movement moves you effortlessly..."

How often do we resist and struggle against change...even when that change is good...even when that change is so needed? The path ahead can be so very difficult, because we often end up doubting ourselves and doubting the good things that are trying to make their way into our lives. We often block ourselves from receiving the good that is trying to materialize. For me, the meaning of these cards are urging me to go with the flow and to trust Spirit while holding compassion for self and suspend judgment and see the love and light within everyone, and to love unconditionally no matter what the circumstances appear to be. I am ready for this. So many beautiful things are depending on this in my life.

For this new moon cycle...this Mystic Power Moon...I will endeavor to place my faith in Spirit. I will powerfully endeavor to flow like the Waterfall with grace and not to struggle and resist against the beautiful things that are growing and taking place in my life. I will aspire to love unconditionally starting with myself, and to become my own truest love first so that I can be that truest love for others as well.

Monday, March 20, 2017

The Big Wane: From Devotion into Power

As the Devotion Moon wanes, it is my sincerest hope that you have found and connected to the depths of your heart to find what you are most devoted to, and what you deeply stand for.
Devotion is an energy that carries with it a very potent energetic charge that creates possibilities when things seem hopeless. It is a divine charge from deep within that helps us power through the toughest of times, and it gives us the stamina to see things through and clear whatever stands in the way no matter what.

Without devotion, we give up on things too easily. We run away or mentally check out when the going gets tough. Perseverance becomes impossible, because devotion is the symbolic "glue" that makes us stick to what's important. There is no meaningful progress without a deep sense of devotion holding us close and keeping our feet to the fire.

If you were in circle with me when this Devotion Moon began, I invite you now to revisit and reconnect to the intention you set for yourselves in this cycle. Feel into it. Breathe into it. Let it come to life in your heart and in your soul. Let it lovingly enfold you and bring you to a whole new level of meaning and purpose in your life.

If you were not in circle with me when this cycle began, I invite you now to seek your heart for the thing you feel most devoted to. I invite you to contemplate what you stand for, and root yourselves firmly into it. I encourage you to connect deeply, because these are the things that bring purpose and meaning to a life well lived.

As we connect and root ourselves firmly in our devotion, we slowly and gradually transition towards the fiery energy of Aries and the new Power Moon. This moon will ask us to contemplate the ways in which we block the fullness of our own power; so as we become firmly connected and rooted within our devotion, we will also be "tilling the soil" in preparation of calling forth the creative fire of the new Power Moon to fuel our fiery and soulful rebirth.

In anticipation of the coming new moon, here are a few encouraging words regarding the fire of rebirth from beloved sister and founder of the Wild Woman Project, Chris Maddox:

"In my Wild Woman Initiation, I have often been asked to stand in the fire of rebirth. Every single time, I am scared. I have learned to go anyway.

This fire calls to me every so often, in waves, in cycles, as needed. Mind you, dear reader, there are always gentler times in between, full of softening, bliss, deep comfort & nourishment.

But the fire knows just when to call again."

Join me Wild Hearts, as we ready ourselves for this Great Unfolding.
With love and gratitude..


Wednesday, March 1, 2017

The Path to Devotion - For the New Moon in Pisces 2017

The new moon in Pisces, which happened Sunday, brought about the theme of Devotion...which asks of us these questions. What do you stand for? What or who are you devoted to? What or who would you die for?

For me, it is all about freedom of body, mind, and spirit, as well as knowing that I must have these things in order to accomplish my purpose and mission in have patience and compassion for myself as I learn to live and grow in service of the divine feminine; to help people connect to that deep place within themselves, to their hearts, and to the divine within.

For this cycle, I am devoted to deepening my connection with spirit, so that it may guide my heart towards accomplishing a divine mission and pathway to love. It will mean setting healthy boundaries and removing all unhealthy attachments, demands on my time, and neutralizing barriers to create and maintain the space I need to learn, heal, love, and grow. It also means having patience and compassion for self, as the healing journey is never linear, but often a messy circular cycle with both good and challenging times involved. I know that as I overcome the challenges, I will continue on a transformative journey. That in itself is such a gift.

So now I ask you...

What are you devoted to this cycle? What does devotion look like for you? The answer to these questions will come from a very deep place. If you are still and quiet long enough, you will feel your heart guiding you. Listen closely...listen it. Find your devotion, and you will find the source that illuminates you deeply...that which nourishes your spirit also feeds your inner light.