Sunday, December 31, 2017
As we look back on this year and reflect on the things that worked and didn't work, let's try not to be so hard on ourselves and resolve to seek our hearts for a path forward that feels right for the coming year. Let's be true to our Wildness and never fear being misunderstood by others.
Let's have the courage to be ourselves always, because we cannot control how others will perceive the things we do and say in this life. People are people, and people will judge. They will perceive us through their own mental conditoning no matter what we do or say, but I encourage you to stay true. Stand firm in the truth of self-knowing. Know yourself and your intentions. Most of all, know your heart and live from your soul. The truth is always there in your heart. You are always the authority on who and what your intentions are. Never let the misunderstandings, misgivings, and misinterpretations of others dictate this for you, or dictate who you are.
Rest confidently in knowing yourself and allow yourself to be free of concern and free of the attachment to being liked or loved. The ones meant to be in your life will BE in your life. The ones who are not, will simply fade away in the natural order of things. Give love and receive love, but most of all, give appreciation for all the experiences...good or bad...because every experience helps us to grow and evolve in the big picture.
Surrender to the flow of things. Embrace the relationships that are healthy and release the ones that are no longer healthy, never were healthy, or never truly existed. The energy of it never lies. When a relationship of any kind is nourishing and healthy, then it feels good. If it does not feel good...if the energy feels negative, critical, doubting, cynical, judging, indifferent, neglectful, etc...then pay attention. Listen to your heart, and act accordingly.
You can love someone so much, but ultimately the energy you give must somehow return, or it will drain and deplete you. All healthy relationships are about maintaining a healthy energetic balance of give and take.
Being a wild-hearted free-thinking spirit is part of your radiance! It means being true to yourself and living in your natural state. It means living life from the inside, embracing those who accept and love you as you are, and letting go of those who are critical, negative, indifferent, or make you feel judged.
You are a divine natural force in this world. You deserve to love and be loved as you are without conditions, without having to conform, and without having to shrink and play small with your life!
May tomorrow be the first day of a radiantly WILD New Year!
Wild Love Always! 💖
Sunday, August 20, 2017
When I see a person, I see their heart and the essence of their character. I see the spirit that animates them whether they are loving, or not. I hold great respect for the many ways people choose to embrace the higher power that feeds their soul. I will not judge people for who they are, or what they believe. Ever.
When we judge, we fear...and when we fear, it will only ever rob us of our joy...rob us of love for self and others...of friendships and connections that could have been lifelong.
Fear produces defensiveness, misunderstanding, mistrust, judgement, and hate. The world has had enough hate, and hate is darkness. The world needs more light...more compassion...mutual understanding...less judgement...and more love. As author Caroline Myss once said, "Nothing grows in the shadows, and everything grows in the light."
Love is a light...a power from the heart..an energy that can transform to the highest good of all. Heart energy has the power to heal; to illuminate life; to build bridges instead of creating great divides. Where fear takes, love gives. It allows us to transform; to move from judgement to compassion...from fear to mutual trust and understanding...from hate to peace...from darkness to light.
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Friday, June 9, 2017
As I contemplate my marriage, I am realizing more every day that marriage is not meant to be a life sentence. As people, we change over time based on life experiences. We often find that through these experiences we change. For some couples, it is a harmonious pairing and they can change and grow together. For others, the pairing is not harmonious and the change is so much that at the core, they become so different from who they were when they first got married. The pairing becomes contentious, adversarial, and so deep in resentment. The relationship becomes toxic and draining. While many might see this as a form of failure, it is actually not a failure, but a signal to grow and evolve. At a deeper level, it's an invitation to heal the old scars and emotional wounds from the past.
Marriage is not meant to be a self-imposed prison with people at each other's throats most of the time...if not all of the time. The illusion that "everyone goes through this" is false. Sure, there are good and bad times in all relationships; but when something is deeply wrong, it creates the condition of a soul-sucking experience and it becomes a self-imposed life sentence by choice. I became more aware of this choice when I learned of a term called "Conscious Uncoupling"... a term that releases a person from the self-imposed notion that says we fail when we leave a toxic relationship. Instead, Conscious Uncoupling means honoring the memory of a relationship in a way that recognizes it as a teacher, and as a necessary part of our own inner growth. With Conscious Uncoupling, neither party is good or bad, but changed...and changed for the better, if we so choose.
"Nearly everyone comes into a new marriage idealizing their partner. Everything is perfect in their minds because they’ve misidentified what marriage is really about. As far as they’re concerned, they’ve found the love of their life, the person who understands them completely. Yes, there will be hiccups in the process, but by and large, there’s no more learning left to do. They’ll both be the same people 10 or 20 years from now as they are today. When we idealize our partners, things initially go very well as we subconsciously project our own positive qualities, as well as the qualities we wish we had, onto them. This positive projection, as it’s called, happens during the honeymoon phase of the relationship where both partners can do no wrong in each other’s eyes.
Sooner or later, the honeymoon ends and reality sets in, so does negative projection. This is usually when we stop projecting positive things onto our partners and begin to project our negative issue onto them instead. Unfortunately, this creates a boomerang effect as these negative issues always come right back to us, triggering our unconscious and long-buried negative internal objects, which are our deepest hurts, betrayals, and traumas. This back-and-forth process of projection and aggravation can escalate to the point where it impacts our psychic structure with even more trauma.
For most of us, these old unresolved issues can be traced back to our first intensely emotional relationship, the one we had with our parents. Because most of these old wounds are unconscious to us as adults, we’re subconsciously driven to resolve them, which is why many people end up with partners that are very similar in key ways to their mother or father. If we’re not in tune with this type of dynamic within our relationship, all we end up seeing is the repeated mistrust, abandonment, or other issue that’s followed us through all our previous relationships. We never see that it’s the signal to heal the emotional wound that’s connected to it. Instead, we choose to blame the other person.
Because we believed so strongly in the 'until death do us part' concept, we see the demise of our marriage as a failure, bringing with it shame, guilt, or regret. Since most of us don’t want to face what we see as a personal failure, we retreat into resentment and anger, and resort to attacking each other instead. We’ve put on our armor and we’re ready to do battle. What we don’t realize is that while a full body shield may offer a level of self-protection, it’s also a form of self-imprisonment that locks us inside a life that repeats the same mistakes over and over again. This includes attracting the same kind of partners to push the same emotional buttons for us until we recognize the deeper purpose of such a relationship."
--Dr. Habib Sadeghi & Dr. Sherry Sami
Sunday, April 2, 2017
Last night I led circle, and in circle we always draw from oracle cards as tools to help us set the most powerful intentions for the coming Lunar cycle. Of the Goddess cards, I drew Kuan Yin. She is the Chinese Goddess of Compassion. The message said, "Release judgments about yourself and others, and focus on the love and light within everyone"...sometimes this is so hard to do.
The second card I drew came from the Earth Magic oracle cards. I drew the card "Waterfall - Effortless"...this card reads...
"You have come to the edge of your comfort zone and find yourself fighting to resist moving past that perceived precipice of who you are, how you can be, or what you can do. Spirit is asking you to step beyond the edge and allow yourself to do so with ease rather than struggle. Yes, at times physical exertion is necessary, but when performed with fluidity and grace, even when the task seems daunting, you'll find that the movement moves you effortlessly..."
How often do we resist and struggle against change...even when that change is good...even when that change is so needed? The path ahead can be so very difficult, because we often end up doubting ourselves and doubting the good things that are trying to make their way into our lives. We often block ourselves from receiving the good that is trying to materialize. For me, the meaning of these cards are urging me to go with the flow and to trust Spirit while holding compassion for self and others...to suspend judgment and see the love and light within everyone, and to love unconditionally no matter what the circumstances appear to be. I am ready for this. So many beautiful things are depending on this in my life.
For this new moon cycle...this Mystic Power Moon...I will endeavor to place my faith in Spirit. I will powerfully endeavor to flow like the Waterfall with grace and not to struggle and resist against the beautiful things that are growing and taking place in my life. I will aspire to love unconditionally starting with myself, and to become my own truest love first so that I can be that truest love for others as well.
Monday, March 20, 2017
This fire calls to me every so often, in waves, in cycles, as needed. Mind you, dear reader, there are always gentler times in between, full of softening, bliss, deep comfort & nourishment.
But the fire knows just when to call again."